Chelsea Handler

And we obviously, our family's not that great at emotion. You know, we try to make each other laugh more than we try to make each other cry. So it was a really funny, full circle, gorgeous, gorgeous moment in my life.

And we obviously, our family's not that great at emotion. You know, we try to make each other laugh more than we try to make each other cry. So it was a really funny, full circle, gorgeous, gorgeous moment in my life.

Yeah, well, I had to pick that up in therapy. Apparently, I didn't have empathy for a long time. I've heard you say that before.

Yeah, well, I had to pick that up in therapy. Apparently, I didn't have empathy for a long time. I've heard you say that before.

Yes, you can. You can totally learn empathy. That's the greatest update ever. The two things I was so scared about when I went into therapy was, A, first of all, I didn't know I had empathy. I lacked empathy. I did not have it. I just lacked it. I had sympathy and I had generosity, but they're not the same thing. I wasn't thinking about what it would be like to be a different person.

Yes, you can. You can totally learn empathy. That's the greatest update ever. The two things I was so scared about when I went into therapy was, A, first of all, I didn't know I had empathy. I lacked empathy. I did not have it. I just lacked it. I had sympathy and I had generosity, but they're not the same thing. I wasn't thinking about what it would be like to be a different person.

I would only go, oh, that person's in trouble. Let me help them. I never thought, what is it like to be them? What is it like to be that person? So the good news is you can gain empathy because it's just like turning a light on that's not on. Thinking about walking in another person's shoes is now something that happens to me daily, you know, regularly, all day long.

I would only go, oh, that person's in trouble. Let me help them. I never thought, what is it like to be them? What is it like to be that person? So the good news is you can gain empathy because it's just like turning a light on that's not on. Thinking about walking in another person's shoes is now something that happens to me daily, you know, regularly, all day long.

I think, oh, that person, what they must be going through, or is that person okay? And don't take this personally. That person could be going through something like, and thinking about what they might be going through. And the biggest fear I had about entering into therapy when I did, and was that I was a narcissist, you know?

I think, oh, that person, what they must be going through, or is that person okay? And don't take this personally. That person could be going through something like, and thinking about what they might be going through. And the biggest fear I had about entering into therapy when I did, and was that I was a narcissist, you know?

And so I asked my therapist, this guy, Dan Siegel, who's incredible and just changed my life forever. I said, am I a narcissist? Like, I need you to really be honest with me. And he was like, typically narcissists aren't looking for feedback. Yeah. And I was like, oh, hallelujah, you know? Like, I was so paranoid that I was this bad person. And I was never a bad person.

And so I asked my therapist, this guy, Dan Siegel, who's incredible and just changed my life forever. I said, am I a narcissist? Like, I need you to really be honest with me. And he was like, typically narcissists aren't looking for feedback. Yeah. And I was like, oh, hallelujah, you know? Like, I was so paranoid that I was this bad person. And I was never a bad person.

I have been angry and I've been confused and I've been hurt, but I've not ever been a bad person. And I think so many people... can get confused in thinking that we're bad because we have negative thoughts or we have human thoughts. Like your humanity is going to create dark thoughts. We all have a shadow self.

I have been angry and I've been confused and I've been hurt, but I've not ever been a bad person. And I think so many people... can get confused in thinking that we're bad because we have negative thoughts or we have human thoughts. Like your humanity is going to create dark thoughts. We all have a shadow self.

We all have a self that's not our best self that is like kind of always like trying to get us to lower our vibe. Yeah. we're innately good, you know? And so that was a relief to find out all of that information. Yeah. Cause I want to be good. I want to be a good girl. You know what I mean? And not the way that like, I don't want to be submissive.

We all have a self that's not our best self that is like kind of always like trying to get us to lower our vibe. Yeah. we're innately good, you know? And so that was a relief to find out all of that information. Yeah. Cause I want to be good. I want to be a good girl. You know what I mean? And not the way that like, I don't want to be submissive.

I want to be a good girl because I want to be a good person and I want to help other people be good women.

I want to be a good girl because I want to be a good person and I want to help other people be good women.

Yeah, if you're presenting. If you're presentational and you're coming, like if I were coming here and thinking, how am I going to impress you? I hope you like me. Yeah. That's much different than me coming in and being completely present with you so that there's not even any of that. Of course, we're gonna like each other. You know, like be real. Whoever you are is fine.

Yeah, if you're presenting. If you're presentational and you're coming, like if I were coming here and thinking, how am I going to impress you? I hope you like me. Yeah. That's much different than me coming in and being completely present with you so that there's not even any of that. Of course, we're gonna like each other. You know, like be real. Whoever you are is fine.