Chloe Shih

I would say I...

Unfortunately, don't think this is an uncommon story for people in my, I don't know, archetype who are like these kind looking.

Like.

gentle looking people who actually grind it out and work extraordinarily viciously we are intense about our work and rigorous and we're corporate girlies and we get shit done and we're asian girls who who we we we meet what we we do what we say and we say what we do and we don't play around and we get the job done because our our our identities kind of are tied to it um and i think that

It is unfortunate.

It is.

And, yeah, like, it is a pattern.

But I would say they're all different learnings.

Like, I've learned about this type of person, and now I know how to discern how I engage with this type of person moving forward.

And I meet a new type of villain in my life, whatever.

Who honestly, maybe in their lives, they think they're doing the right thing.

And we don't see eye to eye.

And that's where people of different backgrounds, way of different communicating the way of our boundaries and our place of comfort.

We're just different.

But I think the story in my head is that it is just tough for...

people like me and when i share about it i do get a slew of i thought i was alone in this i thought the problem was me i thought blah and i'm sure you've seen that too along a lot of the stories that you share and that people who talk to you share um and so i don't want it ever to make it feel like we are the problem we are we can engage with the problem at hand and we have to learn to see the signs and i think that's what

My learnings were time and time again.

And I think now I'm so, so good at it that once I see like a sliver of toxic behavior, I like dip.

I'm like, okay, I've seen this movie play.

Yes.