Chloe Shih

I get rejected.

I have to quit or I like things aren't, I don't see a path forward or I get blamed by the company, but for something that I'm like, wow, I am an

awful person i got nothing i have nothing this is this is me but um just it's not that deep and not that personal of a relationship between corporate work and your life and your worth and your value and you as a person you're so much more than this the statement of work this job description

And so I had to learn that, like, how do I choose on the weekends, choose me versus choose this thing that if I finished by Monday, then that would unblock the team, whatever.

If I take on this one extra scope, then I could potentially get promoted and play this game for years.

I think I just learned how to choose me and then it made sense in my head.

Make sure I invest in my singing classes or time with my partner or yeah.

And doing content, having this identity, like if that fails and I can do this.

So I had to build that for myself across years.

and that's why when it happened i was like oh shit that's crazy that's wild and then i'm like well it happens and thank goodness i have this and i can now choose do i want to go back to that do i want to do this what what a what a what a cool place in life to choose your own adventure what a privilege what a privilege is it to choose your own adventure now

Yeah.

i mean you typically you should get severance i mean you should get money and that gives you a timeline um i think the first thing is like the finances like that freaks people out so just make sure you crunch your numbers and know how much how much time you actually have and then um i think the next thing is uh

just knowing that it's not your fault, even if you do get fired, like sometimes it doesn't work out and that you are not a fit that that company was not a fit for you and that's okay.

And you will find your people elsewhere.

You don't need to be a fit everywhere.

That'd be kind of crazy if the world worked that way too.

And there's, there will always be another job, another company, another opportunity, but you have to go out and open that door.

But, you know, I think the first is the emotional mental impact.

Um, I,

there are you do need a support system to surround yourself like you do need to tell people i think you have to tell people because if you're lying to people and they're like every day they're like oh how's work what's up with the work and you're like oh good today like you know just working on work presentation don't get me started like yeah you cannot