Chris Duffy

Going back to this idea that you have to like decolonize your mind a little bit and stop yourself from taking in all these messages that you've heard about whether you're desirable or not.

Just on a practical level, how do you do that?

Like what steps can a person take to actually like make those changes?

There's so many really practical steps and there's exercises and activities.

But the four big steps to bring yourself into a place where you can find true love, you say are step one, change how you think about love to work on your mindset.

Step two, feel better about love and yourself, working on your heart set.

Step three, connect with a higher love, soul set.

And then step four, date in alignment with love, skill set.

I found that

reading this book and thinking about it, the idea that you have to change your mindset and the idea that you have to change your skillset and the way that you feel about yourself, those all really like, they instantly were things that I could relate to.

I feel like the one that I struggled with

or at least initially, I mean, I think you do a really persuasive job of communicating it, but I felt like soul set was one that I initially struggled with a little bit because sometimes there's this idea that like we have to manifest, we have to attract this into our lives.

But here's my initial hesitation with that is when I hear it like that, it seems like it can sometimes put blame on the people who

aren't in relationships or have had bad luck.

It's not just random chance, it's your fault.

You haven't manifested hard enough, you didn't attract.

The reason you're alone isn't because your partner did something wrong, it's because you didn't manifest hard enough.

And I know that's not what you're saying, but I'd love to have you respond to that, because I think that's an idea out there in the world.

Yeah, and I also think that something you said that really resonated with me is thinking about this idea of like soul set and the idea of bringing yourself into a place where you're open to find love is also about like not believing that it's impossible.

Because if you do believe it's impossible, even if it's right there in front of you, you kind of shut down the possibility.