Chris Hadfield

What is it that you're dreaming of?

And I don't mean the transient, uncontrollable stuff like, you know, win the lottery or whatever.

I mean things that you can actually shape through your own choices.

And then once you've decided these are the actual things that are important to me in life, that I really want to have in my life, that make me feel joyful and fulfilled and proud,

And then once you have that list, then what are you doing this afternoon or this evening or this weekend in order to change who you are so that you are moving yourself and your life very slightly towards those dreams?

And how are you doing that now?

with all the little decisions that you make, because that's the only thing you control is your little decisions.

What am I gonna do next?

That's the only thing you actually control.

What am I gonna do next?

Everything else, you can't change what you did.

The future is just a menu to choose from.

What am I gonna do next?

But if you don't have those personal overarching definitions of perfection, then I don't know how you choose what you're going to do next.

Are you just stimulating your nerve endings?

That's going to be maybe okay briefly, but it's going to be fundamentally disappointing.

And maybe the final piece of that, Whitney,

is don't allow, and this is Chris's philosophy on Life Well Lived, but don't allow those big dreams of your life to define success or failure.

Try and lower your margin of victory, your bar of victory, so that you can get over it multiple times a day.

Because nobody else really cares or understands what you're doing.