Chris Harder

Boy, the first step was grueling.

I had to come home and tell Lori, babe, listen, lost my job today.

And we're going to have to sell, matter of fact, short sell this great big home that we just built.

We have to sell or walk away from the rental properties.

We have to get rid of all these cars.

You name it.

I had to break the news, so to speak.

And I remember Lori looked at me and she was calm and she paused and she could have been mean.

She could have been angry.

She could have been all those things, but she wasn't.

she looked at me and she said, I will never let this happen again.

And that became the birth of Lori, how people know Lori today, because until that moment, she never had an opportunity really, or the urgency to go and develop her skills that she was meant to go and develop.

So that's one of the positive things that came out of it.

So step one was breaking the news.

Step two was

swallowing and accepting this opportunity at reinvention listen i could have looked at it and said poor us or this happened to us or any of those things and i didn't of course i had some anger i had a lot of insecurity i have plenty of fear but i saw it as a bit of relief

I didn't have to play this role anymore.

And I got to choose again.

And I'm telling you, the best thing that you can control is perspective.

You're either going to have a negative set of lenses on or an opportunistic set of lenses on.