Chris Hare

When he came to me, he said, it was, how do I, I have one narrative that I use with private equity, another that I use with venture capital, another that I use with board roles when I'm interviewing. And then I've got my hippie yoga community and my nonprofit work.

When he came to me, he said, it was, how do I, I have one narrative that I use with private equity, another that I use with venture capital, another that I use with board roles when I'm interviewing. And then I've got my hippie yoga community and my nonprofit work.

Yeah, so there's two very practical tools that I recommend. And if it's helpful, I can share a worksheet with you that walks through these that you could share with your guests. But the first exercise is what I call the movie theater. And so it's a visualization where I have people think about their very first day of retirement. And some people say, OK, I'm never going to retire.

Yeah, so there's two very practical tools that I recommend. And if it's helpful, I can share a worksheet with you that walks through these that you could share with your guests. But the first exercise is what I call the movie theater. And so it's a visualization where I have people think about their very first day of retirement. And some people say, OK, I'm never going to retire.

So maybe the last week of life. Right. When you're elderly. What I have people think about is, okay, yesterday you had a retirement party. They gave you a watch or a plaque. And today you have no more title, no more power, no more paycheck. Also no more emails. Hooray. And all of those things. And so you decide to go to the movie theater.

So maybe the last week of life. Right. When you're elderly. What I have people think about is, okay, yesterday you had a retirement party. They gave you a watch or a plaque. And today you have no more title, no more power, no more paycheck. Also no more emails. Hooray. And all of those things. And so you decide to go to the movie theater.

you buy a ticket for the blockbuster for this blockbuster and you go and sit in your favorite seat and you have your coke and you have your popcorn and there's no one else in the theater and the movie starts playing and so then i have people visualize that movie that plays is actually not the blockbuster it's actually your life playing

you buy a ticket for the blockbuster for this blockbuster and you go and sit in your favorite seat and you have your coke and you have your popcorn and there's no one else in the theater and the movie starts playing and so then i have people visualize that movie that plays is actually not the blockbuster it's actually your life playing

and your career not just your career but your entire life one scene after the next play and the good but also the bad the people that you brought with you the people you left behind etc if i have people not just think about that but feel that and sit in it and then i start asking questions of what are some of the themes that you're seeing what are you feeling good and bad what might you call that movie and that sort of thing and so what that does is help you see

and your career not just your career but your entire life one scene after the next play and the good but also the bad the people that you brought with you the people you left behind etc if i have people not just think about that but feel that and sit in it and then i start asking questions of what are some of the themes that you're seeing what are you feeling good and bad what might you call that movie and that sort of thing and so what that does is help you see

the trajectory that you're on, what do you want that future to look like, but also what does your past look like and bringing up those scenes. And so that is one way of, it's interesting because it feels very peaceful in one sense. You're in this

the trajectory that you're on, what do you want that future to look like, but also what does your past look like and bringing up those scenes. And so that is one way of, it's interesting because it feels very peaceful in one sense. You're in this

envisioning this quiet movie theater but the other hand it can be chaotic because you have all these stories that can come flooding in so that's one exercise that can really stir that up and then you can start to analyze okay what's the narrative that's going to get me there if i want a different future what's the narrative that's going to get me to that future

envisioning this quiet movie theater but the other hand it can be chaotic because you have all these stories that can come flooding in so that's one exercise that can really stir that up and then you can start to analyze okay what's the narrative that's going to get me there if i want a different future what's the narrative that's going to get me to that future

And then the other piece is the one that I think is the most practical. If you want to find, uncover atomic stories that you didn't know were there is doing the 360s. So what I would recommend is picking three to five people.

And then the other piece is the one that I think is the most practical. If you want to find, uncover atomic stories that you didn't know were there is doing the 360s. So what I would recommend is picking three to five people.

And this is not the 360 that many of us from corporate America are used to where you have people that there's all kinds of politics and they're evaluating you, potentially putting you down, being very critical. The goal here is not that the goal here is to go and talk to three to five people who know you care about you and want you to succeed.

And this is not the 360 that many of us from corporate America are used to where you have people that there's all kinds of politics and they're evaluating you, potentially putting you down, being very critical. The goal here is not that the goal here is to go and talk to three to five people who know you care about you and want you to succeed.

And they know you in different spheres and ask them, spend 30 minutes, ask if you can record the call and ask them the first question based on how you've seen me live my life. What do you believe my number one value is? Or you could ask what are my top two values, whatever. And then the next question is, please tell a story that you believe best demonstrates that value.

And they know you in different spheres and ask them, spend 30 minutes, ask if you can record the call and ask them the first question based on how you've seen me live my life. What do you believe my number one value is? Or you could ask what are my top two values, whatever. And then the next question is, please tell a story that you believe best demonstrates that value.