Chris Hare

I had a lot that had happened across the course of my life, but I had taken all of that and said, I would claim that I took responsibility for my life, but I would blame others for the things that happened to me. I had to get to a place and in 2020, my marriage almost ended. My wife and I are now back together.

I had a lot that had happened across the course of my life, but I had taken all of that and said, I would claim that I took responsibility for my life, but I would blame others for the things that happened to me. I had to get to a place and in 2020, my marriage almost ended. My wife and I are now back together.

But to get through that, I had to completely rewrite my narrative and go from blaming others to taking responsibility and shifting so that to view a different future. My wife and I, for quite a long season, would actually say, we found it helpful to actually voice, and I would encourage listeners to do this as well, voice what the narrative is.

But to get through that, I had to completely rewrite my narrative and go from blaming others to taking responsibility and shifting so that to view a different future. My wife and I, for quite a long season, would actually say, we found it helpful to actually voice, and I would encourage listeners to do this as well, voice what the narrative is.

So in our case, it was, here's the narrative of what I'm believing about you in this moment, or I'm believing about this situation. I know it's not true based on this new future that we're creating, but this is what I'm feeling and believing at this moment. It really is, how do you create new inputs?

So in our case, it was, here's the narrative of what I'm believing about you in this moment, or I'm believing about this situation. I know it's not true based on this new future that we're creating, but this is what I'm feeling and believing at this moment. It really is, how do you create new inputs?

And so if you're in a place where you move into, whether we're talking business situation or personally with mental health, if you continue to put in the same inputs, things likely won't change for you. But for me, one of the positive inputs that I changed was I got into fly fishing. And so that put me in the energy of the river.

And so if you're in a place where you move into, whether we're talking business situation or personally with mental health, if you continue to put in the same inputs, things likely won't change for you. But for me, one of the positive inputs that I changed was I got into fly fishing. And so that put me in the energy of the river.

It put me in all the movement and all the creativity that goes into that, all the analyzing the river and trying to figure out where the fish is, but mostly just for me being in nature, right? That was a part of changing those inputs so that I could shift the, not only the narrative, but the, the outcomes of that narrative.

It put me in all the movement and all the creativity that goes into that, all the analyzing the river and trying to figure out where the fish is, but mostly just for me being in nature, right? That was a part of changing those inputs so that I could shift the, not only the narrative, but the, the outcomes of that narrative.

Yeah, so I'll reframe the question slightly to the best story I've ever felt. And to set that up, actually, I want to, before I get there, you talked about the fact of your very rational approach. And I love the perspectives that someone who's wired like you versus someone who's wired like me, because I can definitely be more on the other side of the spectrum. And how do we integrate those?

Yeah, so I'll reframe the question slightly to the best story I've ever felt. And to set that up, actually, I want to, before I get there, you talked about the fact of your very rational approach. And I love the perspectives that someone who's wired like you versus someone who's wired like me, because I can definitely be more on the other side of the spectrum. And how do we integrate those?

But Herminia Barra tells this story about a CEO that she coached. And this woman went from being, she was an engineer and she was elevated into CEO. Things were not going well with her team. She was driving the board crazy and was just incredibly rational. And so one of the board members said, coached her and said, you need to be more human. Try telling a story. And her response was very angry.

But Herminia Barra tells this story about a CEO that she coached. And this woman went from being, she was an engineer and she was elevated into CEO. Things were not going well with her team. She was driving the board crazy and was just incredibly rational. And so one of the board members said, coached her and said, you need to be more human. Try telling a story. And her response was very angry.

And she said, no, that's manipulation. Why would I tell a story? It's all about the facts. And what was interesting that Herminia said to her when she coached her was, and this woman said, I'm being authentic to who I am as an engineer. And what Herminia said was, You're being authentic to the version of you that got you here.

And she said, no, that's manipulation. Why would I tell a story? It's all about the facts. And what was interesting that Herminia said to her when she coached her was, and this woman said, I'm being authentic to who I am as an engineer. And what Herminia said was, You're being authentic to the version of you that got you here.

If you want to succeed in this role, there's a different version of yourself that you need to step into and be authentic to that version of yourself. And so it doesn't mean you change your values or your morals or anything like that, but growth. is very uncomfortable, right? So I like to think about growth as bespoke shoes or the experiment of trying on different pair of shoes.

If you want to succeed in this role, there's a different version of yourself that you need to step into and be authentic to that version of yourself. And so it doesn't mean you change your values or your morals or anything like that, but growth. is very uncomfortable, right? So I like to think about growth as bespoke shoes or the experiment of trying on different pair of shoes.

So if you have the best cobbler in the world, make a pair of shoes for you. It's not guaranteed that they're going to be super comfortable when you first put them on. They might be incredibly uncomfortable.

So if you have the best cobbler in the world, make a pair of shoes for you. It's not guaranteed that they're going to be super comfortable when you first put them on. They might be incredibly uncomfortable.