Chris Koerner

And what that looked like at home was dad was quiet more often than not.

Dad was grumpy more often than not.

But dad wasn't really talking freely and openly about the things he was going through because he was trying to put on a brave face and insulate the family from that.

Even when my wife was begging to know more, to get more out of me, if I talk about stressors, then it becomes more stressful to me oftentimes.

So I just keep it in.

I find the same.

I think my partner understands this of me.

And I tried to explain to her that I don't like talking about the stress because in this environment, it's actually de-stressing me from not having to explain and conversate about it.

So, which is a bit of a paradox because then they don't really understand.

And if they don't understand, they might misunderstand.

Misunderstandments might lead to arguments.

The arguments create stress.

And then you're going to tell them in some sort of like argument what's going on.

I don't know how to navigate that, but it's definitely true that me going through something in work and then having to come home and like go through it for another hour to someone else and stress them out potentially doesn't feel like the right approach.

No, but I don't know what the right approach is because they have a right to know about it as well, right?

I think we just need an outlet, whether it's a friend that kind of understands or someone else that, you know, is in our space that we can just talk to about the situation.

I think having no outlet is also bad, right?

And I'm guilty of that.

I find a lot of joy in my work.

And so I don't look at it as work often, but it's still work, right?