Chris Schembra

Sometimes in life, we involve ourselves in so many things and we program ourselves only to see the bad, never to appreciate the good. And you're probably going through that right now. And I got to tell you, you're not alone. And it's nothing new. Humanity has been plagued by this for many, many years. I mean, you look at the books on my shelf, I'll point at one book written in the year 63 AD.

2,000 years ago, this guy wrote a book. You know him as Seneca the Elder. His real name was Lucius Annius Seneca. He was an elder statesman during the Roman Empire. And in that book, he says that the greatest plague to Roman society is that we neither know how to give nor receive a benefit. And of all the vices common in today's society, nothing is more common than ingratitude.

2,000 years ago, this guy wrote a book. You know him as Seneca the Elder. His real name was Lucius Annius Seneca. He was an elder statesman during the Roman Empire. And in that book, he says that the greatest plague to Roman society is that we neither know how to give nor receive a benefit. And of all the vices common in today's society, nothing is more common than ingratitude.

2,000 years ago, this guy wrote a book. You know him as Seneca the Elder. His real name was Lucius Annius Seneca. He was an elder statesman during the Roman Empire. And in that book, he says that the greatest plague to Roman society is that we neither know how to give nor receive a benefit. And of all the vices common in today's society, nothing is more common than ingratitude.

He said ingratitude has caused the worst in humans. The ungrateful man, homicides, thievery, adultery, all that kind of stuff. They were going through that 2000 years ago. We're going through the same stuff in our country today.

He said ingratitude has caused the worst in humans. The ungrateful man, homicides, thievery, adultery, all that kind of stuff. They were going through that 2000 years ago. We're going through the same stuff in our country today.

He said ingratitude has caused the worst in humans. The ungrateful man, homicides, thievery, adultery, all that kind of stuff. They were going through that 2000 years ago. We're going through the same stuff in our country today.

You can either wake up in the morning and focus too much on what's going wrong and not appreciate all the good things, or you can wake up and you can appreciate all the good things and not really focus on the stuff that's wrong. The difference is gratitude and ingratitude. And what I learned in that dark moment on the phone with my friend Scott is that the choice is

You can either wake up in the morning and focus too much on what's going wrong and not appreciate all the good things, or you can wake up and you can appreciate all the good things and not really focus on the stuff that's wrong. The difference is gratitude and ingratitude. And what I learned in that dark moment on the phone with my friend Scott is that the choice is

You can either wake up in the morning and focus too much on what's going wrong and not appreciate all the good things, or you can wake up and you can appreciate all the good things and not really focus on the stuff that's wrong. The difference is gratitude and ingratitude. And what I learned in that dark moment on the phone with my friend Scott is that the choice is

was mine to either look at my life through despair or to look at my life through appreciation. Now, your life might not look like mine. You may be saying, but I don't have all those things, Chris. Money's tight. My family hates me. I've got no friends. No job? I don't know. Well, here's the thing that Heather was talking about earlier in the call.

was mine to either look at my life through despair or to look at my life through appreciation. Now, your life might not look like mine. You may be saying, but I don't have all those things, Chris. Money's tight. My family hates me. I've got no friends. No job? I don't know. Well, here's the thing that Heather was talking about earlier in the call.

was mine to either look at my life through despair or to look at my life through appreciation. Now, your life might not look like mine. You may be saying, but I don't have all those things, Chris. Money's tight. My family hates me. I've got no friends. No job? I don't know. Well, here's the thing that Heather was talking about earlier in the call.

That happiness, woo-woo, positivity, bull crap, it's all fake. It's something that society has fed us for the last 40 years. That self-help space, the positivity gurus, the Tony Robbins of the world, they fed us crap. Here's the truth. Life isn't supposed to look pretty. It's not supposed to be able to be fixed with a filter. It's not supposed to be pretty this and epic that and monumental that.

That happiness, woo-woo, positivity, bull crap, it's all fake. It's something that society has fed us for the last 40 years. That self-help space, the positivity gurus, the Tony Robbins of the world, they fed us crap. Here's the truth. Life isn't supposed to look pretty. It's not supposed to be able to be fixed with a filter. It's not supposed to be pretty this and epic that and monumental that.

That happiness, woo-woo, positivity, bull crap, it's all fake. It's something that society has fed us for the last 40 years. That self-help space, the positivity gurus, the Tony Robbins of the world, they fed us crap. Here's the truth. Life isn't supposed to look pretty. It's not supposed to be able to be fixed with a filter. It's not supposed to be pretty this and epic that and monumental that.

Life is a form of suffering. How you choose to learn from those dark moments and use those to your advantage is something only you can control. And when I realized that, boy, my life shifted. And that was just a couple months ago.

Life is a form of suffering. How you choose to learn from those dark moments and use those to your advantage is something only you can control. And when I realized that, boy, my life shifted. And that was just a couple months ago.

Life is a form of suffering. How you choose to learn from those dark moments and use those to your advantage is something only you can control. And when I realized that, boy, my life shifted. And that was just a couple months ago.

Great question. And I do want to call out Scott and Caitlin, Sean and Leslie, Alec and Shauna for being there in those early days. A researcher by the name of Philip Watkins from Eastern Washington University did a wonderful research study he would eventually call the grateful processing of unpleasant memories.