Christian Huff

I feel, you know, do they not respect me?

And then for her, it's kind of the same thing.

If she gets left out of something, her primary instinct is I feel unloved or unwanted.

So it's even helped us communicate in those aspects to where if something happens like that and there's a flare up, she's not necessarily – she might be kind of confused by why that maybe triggered me so much.

But because it is that core instinct of –

feeling disrespected and desiring to be respected.

So yes, it's helped us so much in marriage, but also just in life and relationships.

I'm saying that to the person listening, if you're single, if you're not married, if you're not dating, it still is a primary core

in how you do friendships, in your relationship with your family.

So I think it even just crosses those boundaries outside of marital relationships too.

It's so true.

Well, we're almost out of time, but I have like a selfish question to ask at the end.

Okay.

So chapter nine of your book, you talk about self-awareness and being defensive.

And I think in our marriage, this is something that I've seen.

I've gotten a lot better at it.

But for me, for a while, it was a struggle.

So we've kind of talked about the Enneagram a little bit.

I'm a type one, which, you know, just perfectionist.

I'm very self-introspective to where...