Christiana

Why aren't men saying, well, there's a single mother down the street, or I have a family member that's single. Why aren't men stepping in? Why don't men care about men and boys?

Why aren't men saying, well, there's a single mother down the street, or I have a family member that's single. Why aren't men stepping in? Why don't men care about men and boys?

Can I tell you an idea I have? I wish more men made men who are bad fathers a pariah. Like if you have a friend that doesn't see his kid, he shouldn't be a friend.

Can I tell you an idea I have? I wish more men made men who are bad fathers a pariah. Like if you have a friend that doesn't see his kid, he shouldn't be a friend.

And I feel a lot of compassion. I think any failed promise, whoever it's made to, I feel a lot of compassion for those people.

And I feel a lot of compassion. I think any failed promise, whoever it's made to, I feel a lot of compassion for those people.

I think that you should become a social pariah if you don't look after your kids. You should become... No, because I... And I'll say this, and I've seen it in my community a lot. There are deadbeats, and there is no consequence. Their friends still roll with them, their mother still let them in their house, and they do not show up for their kids.

I think that you should become a social pariah if you don't look after your kids. You should become... No, because I... And I'll say this, and I've seen it in my community a lot. There are deadbeats, and there is no consequence. Their friends still roll with them, their mother still let them in their house, and they do not show up for their kids.

And if a woman... does not look after her child. If a woman even comes back to work early, I've had people DM me like, you had a baby eight weeks ago. Who's with the baby? Right? Like, I ostensibly think I'm doing a good thing. Do you know what I mean? And a woman who is not seen as a perfect mother is judged and vilified. And absent fathers, there is no social consequence.

And if a woman... does not look after her child. If a woman even comes back to work early, I've had people DM me like, you had a baby eight weeks ago. Who's with the baby? Right? Like, I ostensibly think I'm doing a good thing. Do you know what I mean? And a woman who is not seen as a perfect mother is judged and vilified. And absent fathers, there is no social consequence.

So I'm saying there should be a social consequence for not showing up for your son.

So I'm saying there should be a social consequence for not showing up for your son.

I normally see the inverse. I think, and it's evolutionary biology. They say that, what's the saying? That it's a mother's baby's father's maybe. A man is more likely to treat his... his sister's child with more love than he is his mate's child or his wife's child. They've done studies on this because you know your sister's child is related to you.

I normally see the inverse. I think, and it's evolutionary biology. They say that, what's the saying? That it's a mother's baby's father's maybe. A man is more likely to treat his... his sister's child with more love than he is his mate's child or his wife's child. They've done studies on this because you know your sister's child is related to you.

All that to say, I believe a man's relationship with his children I know this is not going to be a popular thing to say, it's often connected to how he feels about the children's mother. Yes, no, but I agree with that. So for the most part, it's men being like, I split up with you, I see you less. He gets a second wife and he's a really good dad to those second set of kids.

All that to say, I believe a man's relationship with his children I know this is not going to be a popular thing to say, it's often connected to how he feels about the children's mother. Yes, no, but I agree with that. So for the most part, it's men being like, I split up with you, I see you less. He gets a second wife and he's a really good dad to those second set of kids.

I see that all the time. Less so do I see women, and I'm not saying that these villainous women don't exist, who say you can't see your kid. I think that's a cultural trope we've made up.

I see that all the time. Less so do I see women, and I'm not saying that these villainous women don't exist, who say you can't see your kid. I think that's a cultural trope we've made up.

I think we're making a lot of excuses for men because mothers can't do the same thing.

I think we're making a lot of excuses for men because mothers can't do the same thing.