Christiana

Because they have this huge geriatric population.

Because they have this huge geriatric population.

But people aren't having kids. But to both of your points... um, maybe because of the way I was raised. And so my husband's Dominican, so very immigrant family, very family focused. Dominicano. Dominicano. And I'm, I'm Nigerian and you, you know, you know what that means. We live in LA, which some people say is a vapid place or whatever, but there are good people there.

But people aren't having kids. But to both of your points... um, maybe because of the way I was raised. And so my husband's Dominican, so very immigrant family, very family focused. Dominicano. Dominicano. And I'm, I'm Nigerian and you, you know, you know what that means. We live in LA, which some people say is a vapid place or whatever, but there are good people there.

And we focus a lot on building our community. Like we take our friends' kids. Even when I was pregnant, I'll take a friend's kid and

And we focus a lot on building our community. Like we take our friends' kids. Even when I was pregnant, I'll take a friend's kid and

people take our kids and one thing I will say in this postpartum period it being spending time with other people and being active in our trying to build that community it paid dividends in small ways there was a mum at OB school who sent me a text and she was like I've dropped something at your door It was a very sweet, big up lane. She dropped something at my door and I looked out.

people take our kids and one thing I will say in this postpartum period it being spending time with other people and being active in our trying to build that community it paid dividends in small ways there was a mum at OB school who sent me a text and she was like I've dropped something at your door It was a very sweet, big up lane. She dropped something at my door and I looked out.

She brought me just some tea. I had another friend, my friend Chris. She was just like, I'm in the neighborhood. And she bought food that you can heat up and stuff like that. And then Cora's godparents, Dara and Emi, they came by, just held the baby for a bit. So I think sometimes we complain about not having community, but are we trying to be good community and village members?

She brought me just some tea. I had another friend, my friend Chris. She was just like, I'm in the neighborhood. And she bought food that you can heat up and stuff like that. And then Cora's godparents, Dara and Emi, they came by, just held the baby for a bit. So I think sometimes we complain about not having community, but are we trying to be good community and village members?

And I think that we're in this like me, me, me, selfish society, whether it's about your grind, your money, your holidays, whatever you're into. And we've actually forgot how to be village members and we don't. Then we're shocked we don't have a village. So for the last couple of years, I was doing that myself.

And I think that we're in this like me, me, me, selfish society, whether it's about your grind, your money, your holidays, whatever you're into. And we've actually forgot how to be village members and we don't. Then we're shocked we don't have a village. So for the last couple of years, I was doing that myself.

So I was just like, how can I be better to the people around me or just show up in the small ways that I can? And this is why I think this third time around, being in a country that's not my own, I felt more settled, more supportive, more checked in because I was always I've been more present for other people.

So I was just like, how can I be better to the people around me or just show up in the small ways that I can? And this is why I think this third time around, being in a country that's not my own, I felt more settled, more supportive, more checked in because I was always I've been more present for other people.

And I think that that's a hard thing to say to mothers or parents that like, how many people are you there for? Because you're like, well, I'm drowning. But I think if you have that mentality of like, what's the little thing I can do for you? You know, is there a parent in my child's class that I can be like, oh, I'll drop them home sometimes? Or what's the little thing you can do?

And I think that that's a hard thing to say to mothers or parents that like, how many people are you there for? Because you're like, well, I'm drowning. But I think if you have that mentality of like, what's the little thing I can do for you? You know, is there a parent in my child's class that I can be like, oh, I'll drop them home sometimes? Or what's the little thing you can do?

And that accumulates. And that's how you build a village.

And that accumulates. And that's how you build a village.

Are you pitching me to have more kids?

Are you pitching me to have more kids?