Claire Perlman

Thank you so much for having me back, Dan.

Thank you so much for having me back, Dan.

Yeah, it's okay to feel your feelings. I want to make sure that people understand that they are allowed to go through whatever variety of emotions are coming up for them. And if that impacts their sex life, that is okay. And if they want to not Thank you so much for having me. And if we let every single one of those fully impact our sex lives, then we would probably never be fucking.

Yeah, it's okay to feel your feelings. I want to make sure that people understand that they are allowed to go through whatever variety of emotions are coming up for them. And if that impacts their sex life, that is okay. And if they want to not Thank you so much for having me. And if we let every single one of those fully impact our sex lives, then we would probably never be fucking.

So if we want to be fucking, we have to be able to acknowledge that this incredibly shitty thing is happening and acknowledge that it's okay if our libido takes a bit of a dive.

So if we want to be fucking, we have to be able to acknowledge that this incredibly shitty thing is happening and acknowledge that it's okay if our libido takes a bit of a dive.

And that if having sex is an important value to us, it's an important activity, it's an important way to connect, then we want to hold that grief around it and also hold that we would like to do some other things with that grief. Alchemize the grief. Fuck the grief away. Fuck with the grief. Don't try and let it go away. It's there.

And that if having sex is an important value to us, it's an important activity, it's an important way to connect, then we want to hold that grief around it and also hold that we would like to do some other things with that grief. Alchemize the grief. Fuck the grief away. Fuck with the grief. Don't try and let it go away. It's there.

I fully agree. Great sex right now is the biggest F you to this administration that we can possibly give. And so if we want to be the biggest advocates for ourself and show, not let this administration beat us down in the way that they want us to be small and be not liberated anymore and not be in our full power. The best way to take our power back is to have great sex.

I fully agree. Great sex right now is the biggest F you to this administration that we can possibly give. And so if we want to be the biggest advocates for ourself and show, not let this administration beat us down in the way that they want us to be small and be not liberated anymore and not be in our full power. The best way to take our power back is to have great sex.

Yeah. Thank you so much for sharing that. I think that's really important. And we get to fuck our way through this. Like, let's get our IUDs. The first Trump administration, that was the first thing I did. That's how I remember when I got my first IUD.

Yeah. Thank you so much for sharing that. I think that's really important. And we get to fuck our way through this. Like, let's get our IUDs. The first Trump administration, that was the first thing I did. That's how I remember when I got my first IUD.

Yeah, and have all the fucking amazing queer sex. I have amazing queer sex in my house.

Yeah, and have all the fucking amazing queer sex. I have amazing queer sex in my house.

I think a practical thing you can do is put your phone down and remember that doom scrolling is not actually going to shift anything. And that once you do that, bring yourself back to the present moment. Do the things that get you, help you relax. Like, don't even have the goal of getting in the mood. Just have the goal of connection. Have the goal of feeling more sensual.

I think a practical thing you can do is put your phone down and remember that doom scrolling is not actually going to shift anything. And that once you do that, bring yourself back to the present moment. Do the things that get you, help you relax. Like, don't even have the goal of getting in the mood. Just have the goal of connection. Have the goal of feeling more sensual.

Have the goal of giving a big F you to this administration. And go to Naked Hot Springs. Take a long, luxurious bath. Watch some great porn. Give yourself a self-sensual massage. Give your partner a sensual massage. All of those things. Do some really gay eye gazing. I love that.

Have the goal of giving a big F you to this administration. And go to Naked Hot Springs. Take a long, luxurious bath. Watch some great porn. Give yourself a self-sensual massage. Give your partner a sensual massage. All of those things. Do some really gay eye gazing. I love that.

You have to be able to find joy in grief.

You have to be able to find joy in grief.

Yes, yes.

Yes, yes.

Exactly. Exactly. You actually will be better prepared to re-engage if you are able to fill your own cup.

Exactly. Exactly. You actually will be better prepared to re-engage if you are able to fill your own cup.

Yeah, that's also the goal.

Yeah, that's also the goal.

Yeah. I mean, nothing is more healing than community. And if you find community in your queer community, which I am always fucking preaching, but anywhere you can find solace in whatever community like brings you that feeling, I think that is the most important thing ever. And then if you fuck within community, you know, that's just an added bonus.

Yeah. I mean, nothing is more healing than community. And if you find community in your queer community, which I am always fucking preaching, but anywhere you can find solace in whatever community like brings you that feeling, I think that is the most important thing ever. And then if you fuck within community, you know, that's just an added bonus.

I mean, you shouldn't be able to see anything, right?

I mean, you shouldn't be able to see anything, right?

Yeah, or who is sitting on your face.

Yeah, or who is sitting on your face.

Thank you.

Thank you.