Clare Crowe

And it may be that other parents or other family members are going to say, no, did you do something?

You don't need to share anything.

It's your child's information.

So you can hold it yourself as much as you feel is necessary for the child.

For some parents, they'll feel actually everyone responds differently in a way that's helpful.

when I share a label.

So in that instance, absolutely share the label.

It's about the unique child themselves.

You really do, because actually it's on your sister.

Your sister is the parent.

And actually, maybe the best way you can support your sister is by being with her and say, gosh, it must be hard when they have those tantrums.

How are you doing?

Our children learn coping through us.

So we have this thing in neuroscience called mirror neurons.

So it's easy to remember actually with a baby.

So with a baby, a baby smiles and we smile back or they get distressed and we go, oh, you're distressed.

We're always mirroring their emotions.

What we can sometimes forget as parents is that our children and older children continue to do that.

So if we can model, you know, not that I'm coping perfectly, but rather I'm really stressed in this moment.

These are the things I'm doing to soothe.