Colman Noctor

I don't think there's a need for that.

Yeah, there's a guy, Russell Barker used to say, we are not engineers of our children, we're shepherds.

You're guiding them, not making them.

And many of us think we're engineers of our children when we're not.

So your role as a shepherd is to guide, direct, suggest rather than manufacture.

And I think there's a great liberation in that as well because

Takes a bit of the responsibility off you, too, from the bottom of your head.

But, you know, one of the things like I've had so many parents, Ray, and they've come to me in panic stations about the 17 year old who won't work or this kid that won't study or this kid that doesn't have a clue what they want to do.

And and.

almost 99% of those kids are fine.

When they hit 19, 20, they just find their level or they find their tribe or they find their thing.

And there's that sense of what were we worrying about?

In most cases, this stuff isn't the be all and end all.

And young adults, as they become young adults, find ways to navigate the world that suits them.

And they'll find something that they're curious about or they'll find something

that doesn't maybe feel like work to them or something that they're capable of or something that somebody else values them doing you know it might be a young guy does go to college goes to work in a bar and some bar manager takes him under his arm and says you've got a real skill here and within two years he's managing a bar and you know functioning really well driving a car and doing all those things when his mates are still trying to struggle through super middles in college you know

Right.

Colman, thanks so much for that.

And all the very best to all the students sitting their exams tomorrow.

It's going to be OK.