Craig Groeschel

Yes, I'm trying to love the person, but I'm actually, in every conversation, I've got a couple of priorities. Minister the person, find out more, help them get involved. Could they be a staff member? And so instead of asking the obvious question, which most people do, like, so tell me what you do for a living. I would always ask something like this.

Yes, I'm trying to love the person, but I'm actually, in every conversation, I've got a couple of priorities. Minister the person, find out more, help them get involved. Could they be a staff member? And so instead of asking the obvious question, which most people do, like, so tell me what you do for a living. I would always ask something like this.

I'd say like, hey, what are you working on right now that has you fired up? I like that better. That gives them permission to talk about their job or their parenting, but you're getting at the heart. And so they tell you something they're excited about. And then question two, I'd say like, man, tell me the story behind why that matters to you. And the words are important, story and matters to you.

I'd say like, hey, what are you working on right now that has you fired up? I like that better. That gives them permission to talk about their job or their parenting, but you're getting at the heart. And so they tell you something they're excited about. And then question two, I'd say like, man, tell me the story behind why that matters to you. And the words are important, story and matters to you.

I'd say like, hey, what are you working on right now that has you fired up? I like that better. That gives them permission to talk about their job or their parenting, but you're getting at the heart. And so they tell you something they're excited about. And then question two, I'd say like, man, tell me the story behind why that matters to you. And the words are important, story and matters to you.

And what happens is now we're moving beyond facts and they're telling a story. And it's not just any story, but it's their story. And I mean, they are their own favorite subjects. They're talking about something that they love and they're talking about something that is very meaningful to them. And so I'm listening to the story, trying to get totally immersed in it.

And what happens is now we're moving beyond facts and they're telling a story. And it's not just any story, but it's their story. And I mean, they are their own favorite subjects. They're talking about something that they love and they're talking about something that is very meaningful to them. And so I'm listening to the story, trying to get totally immersed in it.

And what happens is now we're moving beyond facts and they're telling a story. And it's not just any story, but it's their story. And I mean, they are their own favorite subjects. They're talking about something that they love and they're talking about something that is very meaningful to them. And so I'm listening to the story, trying to get totally immersed in it.

And then I ask a deeper question. And it's usually about some emotion. So, you know, I might say like, man, like growing up like that must have been really painful because they're telling about something they went through as a child or like Gosh, overcoming that challenge must have made you so proud. So I'm going to validate an emotion and then ask some version of this.

And then I ask a deeper question. And it's usually about some emotion. So, you know, I might say like, man, like growing up like that must have been really painful because they're telling about something they went through as a child or like Gosh, overcoming that challenge must have made you so proud. So I'm going to validate an emotion and then ask some version of this.

And then I ask a deeper question. And it's usually about some emotion. So, you know, I might say like, man, like growing up like that must have been really painful because they're telling about something they went through as a child or like Gosh, overcoming that challenge must have made you so proud. So I'm going to validate an emotion and then ask some version of this.

And I've asked, you know, 50 versions of this question over and over again. Like, how did that shape you to become the person that you are today? And that type of question communicates deep care. And here's what I promise you. They've probably never been asked that before. is you're going deeper into people to find, it's what I call the story before the story.

And I've asked, you know, 50 versions of this question over and over again. Like, how did that shape you to become the person that you are today? And that type of question communicates deep care. And here's what I promise you. They've probably never been asked that before. is you're going deeper into people to find, it's what I call the story before the story.

And I've asked, you know, 50 versions of this question over and over again. Like, how did that shape you to become the person that you are today? And that type of question communicates deep care. And here's what I promise you. They've probably never been asked that before. is you're going deeper into people to find, it's what I call the story before the story.

Meaning like, you're going to see in people greatness. What's the story that created the greatness? And what I'm looking for, and you do not see it in everybody, but I'm looking for like these special, this special combination of qualities that create, When you see them, they start to shout at you. I like calling them pre-success qualities.

Meaning like, you're going to see in people greatness. What's the story that created the greatness? And what I'm looking for, and you do not see it in everybody, but I'm looking for like these special, this special combination of qualities that create, When you see them, they start to shout at you. I like calling them pre-success qualities.

Meaning like, you're going to see in people greatness. What's the story that created the greatness? And what I'm looking for, and you do not see it in everybody, but I'm looking for like these special, this special combination of qualities that create, When you see them, they start to shout at you. I like calling them pre-success qualities.

Like in every success story, you're going to see some version of these qualities before you see the success. You're going to see like, for me, I'm looking for this like unshakable spiritual strength. this deep resolve, this resounding resilience, this relentless drive they're going to get things done, this like obsessive work ethic, this unwavering heart for God or the unbreakable will to win.

Like in every success story, you're going to see some version of these qualities before you see the success. You're going to see like, for me, I'm looking for this like unshakable spiritual strength. this deep resolve, this resounding resilience, this relentless drive they're going to get things done, this like obsessive work ethic, this unwavering heart for God or the unbreakable will to win.

Like in every success story, you're going to see some version of these qualities before you see the success. You're going to see like, for me, I'm looking for this like unshakable spiritual strength. this deep resolve, this resounding resilience, this relentless drive they're going to get things done, this like obsessive work ethic, this unwavering heart for God or the unbreakable will to win.