Craig Groeschel

I'm going to meet his anger with my anger or his critical spirit with my defensiveness.

And so I'm going to step back.

I'm going to be objective.

I'm going to say, this is what I would normally do, but I'm not going to.

I'm going to capture that.

I'm going to put him in a place to say, maybe he had a bad day.

Maybe he's always this way.

I'm kind of sad.

He's distant enough.

I'm now objectively looking at it and breathing in.

And I'm going to come back and say, okay, let's look at this objectively.

Or I understand why you'd feel that way.

And so it's creating a emotional barrier between my emotions and my response.

It does seem a little bit challenging to do that in a split second.

So I'm assuming...

that this is kind of a skill because I can't really go one, step two, what was it?

I can't remember step two.

It's probably a skill that I would develop over time that I would apply in the moment.

No, it totally makes sense.

And I could see now, based on hearing it a couple times, that I could actually do that in a breath.