Dan Savage

Every three-way becomes a two-way at some point during the three-way. Nobody should have a threesome with anybody, with a partner and a very special guest star, or with two randos or two fuck buddies if you can't handle... That moment in the three-way when the two people who aren't you suddenly start vibing or connecting or catch a groove and you're sort of on the outside.

Every three-way becomes a two-way at some point during the three-way. Nobody should have a threesome with anybody, with a partner and a very special guest star, or with two randos or two fuck buddies if you can't handle... That moment in the three-way when the two people who aren't you suddenly start vibing or connecting or catch a groove and you're sort of on the outside.

That's a moment in a three-way when you hang back and stroke your dick and enjoy the live porn performance happening in front of you. Also, when you're having a three-way at those moments when it's not about you, you can't advocate for yourself in a moment like that. They were fucking. They were vibing. He was pounding away at the other bottom with the caged cock.

That's a moment in a three-way when you hang back and stroke your dick and enjoy the live porn performance happening in front of you. Also, when you're having a three-way at those moments when it's not about you, you can't advocate for yourself in a moment like that. They were fucking. They were vibing. He was pounding away at the other bottom with the caged cock.

You could have if this was going to be a problem for you or you could have just to keep stirring the pot and – playing, and yes, anding, you could have stuck your ass in the air next to the other bottom's ass and just said two little words. My turn. And the top, who you vibed with for 10 months, you fucked around with for 10 months, obviously is into you, obviously enjoys fucking you.

You could have if this was going to be a problem for you or you could have just to keep stirring the pot and – playing, and yes, anding, you could have stuck your ass in the air next to the other bottom's ass and just said two little words. My turn. And the top, who you vibed with for 10 months, you fucked around with for 10 months, obviously is into you, obviously enjoys fucking you.

Wouldn't have fucked you once a week for 10 months if he didn't like fucking you too. And you just needed to tap in. And I think we have a three-way. Everybody should have this conversation with like, when it becomes a two-way for a second, we're all going to be good with that. If somebody needs to take a break... we can all take a break together.

Wouldn't have fucked you once a week for 10 months if he didn't like fucking you too. And you just needed to tap in. And I think we have a three-way. Everybody should have this conversation with like, when it becomes a two-way for a second, we're all going to be good with that. If somebody needs to take a break... we can all take a break together.

And if anybody at a certain moment wants to tap in, please, please, everybody should be empowered to, to tap in and say, Hey, I need a little attention to pay to me, my turn. And I think you'll feel better about hooking up with this top again. If you can just have a moment to process with him, like where this went wrong for you and that you had some hurt feelings and,

And if anybody at a certain moment wants to tap in, please, please, everybody should be empowered to, to tap in and say, Hey, I need a little attention to pay to me, my turn. And I think you'll feel better about hooking up with this top again. If you can just have a moment to process with him, like where this went wrong for you and that you had some hurt feelings and,

And you needed to advocate for yourself in the moment. And you probably, your feelings wouldn't have been as hurt as they are if you had, but you didn't. And so if this ever happens again, you have a three-way again, you want to make sure that he knows that if you're out of the action for too long, he needs to pull you in, or you're going to tap in at some point.

And you needed to advocate for yourself in the moment. And you probably, your feelings wouldn't have been as hurt as they are if you had, but you didn't. And so if this ever happens again, you have a three-way again, you want to make sure that he knows that if you're out of the action for too long, he needs to pull you in, or you're going to tap in at some point.

And then you want to be brought back in to what's happening. But if you have this kind of enormous, I don't want to say you're having a meltdown. You have these hurt feelings because the predictable thing that happens often at three ways, which is a two-way breaks out in front of a third person, happened. Maybe three ways aren't for you. I will say, though, like I want to apportion blame here.

And then you want to be brought back in to what's happening. But if you have this kind of enormous, I don't want to say you're having a meltdown. You have these hurt feelings because the predictable thing that happens often at three ways, which is a two-way breaks out in front of a third person, happened. Maybe three ways aren't for you. I will say, though, like I want to apportion blame here.

Two thirds of it is theirs. They failed you. When you left the room, that was a sign for them to take a break and walk out to the room that you were in and take your phone out of your hand and one of them to start sucking your dick and the other to sit on your face. They needed to pull you back in. That was a sign that like you were way outside of it and it was on them.

Two thirds of it is theirs. They failed you. When you left the room, that was a sign for them to take a break and walk out to the room that you were in and take your phone out of your hand and one of them to start sucking your dick and the other to sit on your face. They needed to pull you back in. That was a sign that like you were way outside of it and it was on them.

at that moment to pull you in, but it was on you before that moment, before you felt so outside the action or irrelevant or inadequate, It was on you to say, hey, I'm still here. I want to tap back in. Here's my ass. Can we take turns? Fuck me. And you could have said that. And then if you'd said my turn and the top was like, yeah, no, I'm busy. Okay.

at that moment to pull you in, but it was on you before that moment, before you felt so outside the action or irrelevant or inadequate, It was on you to say, hey, I'm still here. I want to tap back in. Here's my ass. Can we take turns? Fuck me. And you could have said that. And then if you'd said my turn and the top was like, yeah, no, I'm busy. Okay.

Then you have every right to feel as hurt and upset as you do. But do you really think this top is still into you? Still wants to fuck you? Would have reacted that way in that moment had you tried to tap in? I don't. I think they would have pulled you back in had you advocated for yourself before you left the room. So that's where you failed.

Then you have every right to feel as hurt and upset as you do. But do you really think this top is still into you? Still wants to fuck you? Would have reacted that way in that moment had you tried to tap in? I don't. I think they would have pulled you back in had you advocated for yourself before you left the room. So that's where you failed.