Dan Savage

It didn't take. He didn't get sick and he doesn't want to get sick. And so he doesn't want to hang out with you. But there's something about the coldness and almost anger in his reaction that has me wondering if what you left out is you kind of knew you had COVID or suspected you had COVID or he thinks you should have known that you had COVID when you hung out with him and exposed him.

which is not a technicality that then requires him to show up at your apartment and make sure that second exposure takes, if the first didn't, by holding you at a moment when, understandably, you're sick, you'd like to be held. I came down with COVID once. My boyfriend promptly left the apartment and I didn't see him for two weeks. Three weeks, because I took Paxilvid and had rebound.

which is not a technicality that then requires him to show up at your apartment and make sure that second exposure takes, if the first didn't, by holding you at a moment when, understandably, you're sick, you'd like to be held. I came down with COVID once. My boyfriend promptly left the apartment and I didn't see him for two weeks. Three weeks, because I took Paxilvid and had rebound.

It fucking sucked. But just because he was my boyfriend and we were around each other a little bit at the start didn't obligate him to stick around and really get COVID. Make sure he got COVID. So, look, yeah. Either he's an asshole or he's angry about whatever went down when you exposed him. If he's an asshole, fuck him. Break up with him. He's not your partner.

It fucking sucked. But just because he was my boyfriend and we were around each other a little bit at the start didn't obligate him to stick around and really get COVID. Make sure he got COVID. So, look, yeah. Either he's an asshole or he's angry about whatever went down when you exposed him. If he's an asshole, fuck him. Break up with him. He's not your partner.

He didn't react to you getting sick in the loving way you would expect a partner to. And you know how you expect a partner to react? Someone you don't live with at a moment where you get COVID? They say, oh my God, you're sick. I will be right there. with food and anything else that you need. You need to go get your meds. You need anything comfort foodie special.

He didn't react to you getting sick in the loving way you would expect a partner to. And you know how you expect a partner to react? Someone you don't live with at a moment where you get COVID? They say, oh my God, you're sick. I will be right there. with food and anything else that you need. You need to go get your meds. You need anything comfort foodie special.

I will run to that market or wherever and I will get you that special comfort foodie thing and I will leave it all on your porch because I don't want to get COVID. And then I will call you and we can FaceTime and watch something together on Netflix in our separate apartments where I won't get COVID. And then you can keep testing. And when you test negative, I will be there in person.

I will run to that market or wherever and I will get you that special comfort foodie thing and I will leave it all on your porch because I don't want to get COVID. And then I will call you and we can FaceTime and watch something together on Netflix in our separate apartments where I won't get COVID. And then you can keep testing. And when you test negative, I will be there in person.

when I'm no longer at risk of getting infected with this illness, which is still killing people by the hundreds, not the tens of thousands and hundreds of thousands anymore, but some people do get it and fucking die. And I don't know your boyfriend.

when I'm no longer at risk of getting infected with this illness, which is still killing people by the hundreds, not the tens of thousands and hundreds of thousands anymore, but some people do get it and fucking die. And I don't know your boyfriend.

I don't know if he has some underlying medical condition that could make COVID riskier for him than it is for other people in his age demographic who are otherwise generally healthy. I'm generally healthy. I have fucked up lungs and asthma. COVID was pretty risky for me.

I don't know if he has some underlying medical condition that could make COVID riskier for him than it is for other people in his age demographic who are otherwise generally healthy. I'm generally healthy. I have fucked up lungs and asthma. COVID was pretty risky for me.

If I were your boyfriend, I would have run all the errands, gotten all the meds, brought you all your special things, special food, everything you need. But I would not have cuddled you on the couch. I wouldn't have. So his cold reaction, he's an asshole. and you should ask him to bring food to your house one more time, and then you should break up with him.

If I were your boyfriend, I would have run all the errands, gotten all the meds, brought you all your special things, special food, everything you need. But I would not have cuddled you on the couch. I wouldn't have. So his cold reaction, he's an asshole. and you should ask him to bring food to your house one more time, and then you should break up with him.

First, I'm so sorry for your loss and your siblings' loss and what your mother lost, which isn't just her husband of however many years, but also your her idea of what their marriage was and what they meant to each other and what they had achieved together. There are two different ways to understand a kind of late in life, late in a multi-decade marriage affair like this. You can understand it

First, I'm so sorry for your loss and your siblings' loss and what your mother lost, which isn't just her husband of however many years, but also your her idea of what their marriage was and what they meant to each other and what they had achieved together. There are two different ways to understand a kind of late in life, late in a multi-decade marriage affair like this. You can understand it

in the way that we're encouraged to understand infidelity. That if somebody could cheat on you, if they could do that, particularly a protracted affair, that's proof that they did not love you and that the relationship, this marriage, was a lie. That becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. We're told that. We're told that that's how we should understand an affair, infidelity.

in the way that we're encouraged to understand infidelity. That if somebody could cheat on you, if they could do that, particularly a protracted affair, that's proof that they did not love you and that the relationship, this marriage, was a lie. That becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. We're told that. We're told that that's how we should understand an affair, infidelity.

And then we feel that way when we learn that that we were cheated on. Yeah, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. There's another way to understand it. Life is long. Relationships are complicated. People, as Esther Perel writes in State of Affairs, people often cheat, not because they don't love their partner, but for reasons that have something to do with a need of theirs as an individual.