Dan Savage

You know, I think when you're in a longterm relationship, I think what all relationships are stories that two people create together. The couple is a story that's told by the couple to each other. The couple is also a story that each of those people in that couple tell to others together and separately about who they are and what they mean to each other.

And your mom's story about her relationship about her marriage is a lot more complicated than it was a week and a half ago, but it's not complicated in a way that a lot of people's marriages and relationships aren't also complicated.

And your mom's story about her relationship about her marriage is a lot more complicated than it was a week and a half ago, but it's not complicated in a way that a lot of people's marriages and relationships aren't also complicated.

A lot of people out there who've been cheated on and taken someone back or forgiven them or left them and managed to salvage from the calamity, the catastrophe of the affair and the betrayal, a friendship, or even still a marriage. People cheat, get past it, stay married, recommit, are able then to see or feel the love that the revelation of the affair may have obscured for months or years.

A lot of people out there who've been cheated on and taken someone back or forgiven them or left them and managed to salvage from the calamity, the catastrophe of the affair and the betrayal, a friendship, or even still a marriage. People cheat, get past it, stay married, recommit, are able then to see or feel the love that the revelation of the affair may have obscured for months or years.

It can reemerge. And that's a story your mother could tell herself about this affair. Instead of telling herself, this means he never loved me, She can tell herself this means our love was big and messy and complicated. And he was an asshole and selfish and did something terrible.

It can reemerge. And that's a story your mother could tell herself about this affair. Instead of telling herself, this means he never loved me, She can tell herself this means our love was big and messy and complicated. And he was an asshole and selfish and did something terrible.

And maybe if he'd lived for another couple of years, I could have divorced his ass, but stayed in his life because we have kids together or we would have reconciled. I think in the telling of that story, your mother may find some peace because in the same way that a couple is a story, it's a myth two people create together and a story two people tell each other and tell others about who they are.

And maybe if he'd lived for another couple of years, I could have divorced his ass, but stayed in his life because we have kids together or we would have reconciled. I think in the telling of that story, your mother may find some peace because in the same way that a couple is a story, it's a myth two people create together and a story two people tell each other and tell others about who they are.

Your mother's going to have a story to tell about her marriage now that she's a widow. And what is that story going to be? And what is that story going to look like? And how much weight and importance is she going to place on

Your mother's going to have a story to tell about her marriage now that she's a widow. And what is that story going to be? And what is that story going to look like? And how much weight and importance is she going to place on

shitty awful selfish boneheaded thing her dead husband did toward the end of his life and how much weight is she going to put on everything else that the relationship was and meant and achieved including you kids as the shock of it fades the shock of the affair, how she found out about it, and then her husband's death.

shitty awful selfish boneheaded thing her dead husband did toward the end of his life and how much weight is she going to put on everything else that the relationship was and meant and achieved including you kids as the shock of it fades the shock of the affair, how she found out about it, and then her husband's death.

It'll never recede out of sight, but hopefully it will recede to some proportionate way and not be the only thing she can think about or the only thing she sees or takes away from however many decades your parents spent together. My heart goes out to you and your siblings and most of all your mother. And not that it matters, not that it helps, but I'm mad at your dad too.

It'll never recede out of sight, but hopefully it will recede to some proportionate way and not be the only thing she can think about or the only thing she sees or takes away from however many decades your parents spent together. My heart goes out to you and your siblings and most of all your mother. And not that it matters, not that it helps, but I'm mad at your dad too.

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