Dan Savage

cross through that barrier and wind up blooming large in our erotic imaginations and there's literally nothing you can do about it you could feel bad about it sounds like you felt bad about it probably for decades and where has it gotten you Cowboys aren't making your dick any less hard at 64 than cowboys were at 54 or 34, 24 or 14. You have to live with your kinks and live with your fetishes.

And what makes you a good or bad person or academic or East Coast pointy-headed liberal is how you express them, how you share them. And there are ways to live out your worst experiences. Sexual kinks, fetishes, to fetishize the worst people without making more terrible people and without being the worst person.

And what makes you a good or bad person or academic or East Coast pointy-headed liberal is how you express them, how you share them. And there are ways to live out your worst experiences. Sexual kinks, fetishes, to fetishize the worst people without making more terrible people and without being the worst person.

Find other people who share your kink and consensually indulge with them, whatever that looks like. And remember...

Find other people who share your kink and consensually indulge with them, whatever that looks like. And remember...

kink role play it's just theater and nobody has a problem when you go to a movie and there's hannibal lecter carving people up and people watch that movie and experience fear and release and yeah and that's fine you had a boner and people are like oh i'm a terrible person no you're not a terrible person you just like your desire for this kind of cathartic role play is

kink role play it's just theater and nobody has a problem when you go to a movie and there's hannibal lecter carving people up and people watch that movie and experience fear and release and yeah and that's fine you had a boner and people are like oh i'm a terrible person no you're not a terrible person you just like your desire for this kind of cathartic role play is

is tied up with your erotic imagination. And it's, I'm sorry, you listen to this show, presumably you called me. This is so common, right?

is tied up with your erotic imagination. And it's, I'm sorry, you listen to this show, presumably you called me. This is so common, right?

On feminist, strong, powerful women who want to have their hair pulled and their asses slapped and be called sluts during sex by someone who respects them, that they chose and empowered to treat them like that for a set period of time are no less feminist, maybe are more feminist because they're doing what it is that they want to do with who they want to do that shit with than someone who's a feminist who doesn't have that kind of fantasy.

On feminist, strong, powerful women who want to have their hair pulled and their asses slapped and be called sluts during sex by someone who respects them, that they chose and empowered to treat them like that for a set period of time are no less feminist, maybe are more feminist because they're doing what it is that they want to do with who they want to do that shit with than someone who's a feminist who doesn't have that kind of fantasy.

It's just a cliche that people are attracted to the symbolism and power and threat in certain archetypes that are negatively correlated with terrible world events. You don't think skinheads have negative connotations? The reason anti-racist skinheads have to identify themselves as anti-racist skinheads is because the assumption is a skinhead is a racist.

It's just a cliche that people are attracted to the symbolism and power and threat in certain archetypes that are negatively correlated with terrible world events. You don't think skinheads have negative connotations? The reason anti-racist skinheads have to identify themselves as anti-racist skinheads is because the assumption is a skinhead is a racist.

So yeah, the alts you tossed out there, the alternatives you tossed out there to your problematic cowboy fetish, if you thought about them as deeply as you've thought about your cowboy fetish that isn't going anywhere, you would recognize that there are problems with them too. And so stop if this call was for real, like maybe this was JD Vance pranking me.

So yeah, the alts you tossed out there, the alternatives you tossed out there to your problematic cowboy fetish, if you thought about them as deeply as you've thought about your cowboy fetish that isn't going anywhere, you would recognize that there are problems with them too. And so stop if this call was for real, like maybe this was JD Vance pranking me.

Stop putting yourself through the, you're 64 fucking years old. The stuff that turns you on is going to keep turning you on until you fucking die. There is nothing that you can do about this. You have to recognize when it comes to kink, fantasy, role play, sexual archetypes that just fucking turn you on.

Stop putting yourself through the, you're 64 fucking years old. The stuff that turns you on is going to keep turning you on until you fucking die. There is nothing that you can do about this. You have to recognize when it comes to kink, fantasy, role play, sexual archetypes that just fucking turn you on.

You have to recognize what you can realize in real life, consensually in a way that makes you feel good about yourself, makes the person that you're with feel good about them, feel good about your connection around this shared kink and the kinks that can never be realized because they're impossible because it's a centaur you want to sleep with or a minor.

You have to recognize what you can realize in real life, consensually in a way that makes you feel good about yourself, makes the person that you're with feel good about them, feel good about your connection around this shared kink and the kinks that can never be realized because they're impossible because it's a centaur you want to sleep with or a minor.

There are unrealizable kinks for moral and ethical reasons. Cowboys are not one of them. There are, yeah, some kinks that make other people feel uncomfortable perhaps because they're archetype you're attracted to is somebody associated with world historical traumatic crimes and that's not a coincidence. It's not a coincidence.