Dan Savage

And during the darkest days of the AIDS crisis, we buried our friends in the morning, we protested in the afternoon, and we danced all night. And it was the dance that kept us in the fight because it was the dance we were fighting for. It didn't look like we would win then. It didn't look like we would win marriage equality in 2004. But we did. Right now it doesn't feel like we can win.

And during the darkest days of the AIDS crisis, we buried our friends in the morning, we protested in the afternoon, and we danced all night. And it was the dance that kept us in the fight because it was the dance we were fighting for. It didn't look like we would win then. It didn't look like we would win marriage equality in 2004. But we did. Right now it doesn't feel like we can win.

But we can. But only if we fight. And dance. And me? You know what I'm bringing to the dance and the fight? Both my wolves. All right, coming up on the show today, tons of your cues, lots of my A's. Sex therapist Claire Perlman is here. She joins us to talk about how we're going to maintain our libidos over the next four years.

But we can. But only if we fight. And dance. And me? You know what I'm bringing to the dance and the fight? Both my wolves. All right, coming up on the show today, tons of your cues, lots of my A's. Sex therapist Claire Perlman is here. She joins us to talk about how we're going to maintain our libidos over the next four years.

And on the Magnum, we've got a what are you doing with former pastor turned porn star, Doc Chocolate. All of that coming up today on a jam-packed show. Let's get to that first call. This episode is brought to you by Field, an app where curious people come to connect. Download Field on the App Store or Google Play and find out why so many of my listeners are already using it.

And on the Magnum, we've got a what are you doing with former pastor turned porn star, Doc Chocolate. All of that coming up today on a jam-packed show. Let's get to that first call. This episode is brought to you by Field, an app where curious people come to connect. Download Field on the App Store or Google Play and find out why so many of my listeners are already using it.

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Have you seen Wicked yet? I saw Wicked a couple of weeks ago. Loved it. And I bring this up because, as you probably noticed if you haven't been living under a rock the last few months, the stars of Wicked, Ariana Grande, Cynthia Erivo, have been out doing a press tour. And Cynthia Erivo, who is... delicate, feminine, but has a kind of butch glaze.

Have you seen Wicked yet? I saw Wicked a couple of weeks ago. Loved it. And I bring this up because, as you probably noticed if you haven't been living under a rock the last few months, the stars of Wicked, Ariana Grande, Cynthia Erivo, have been out doing a press tour. And Cynthia Erivo, who is... delicate, feminine, but has a kind of butch glaze.

She's got a shaved head and there's nothing about Cynthia Erivo that doesn't read femme, but femme in a powerful way. So it seems to me that if Cynthia Erivo can rock the shaved head look and still present femme, but with a butch glaze, that you should be able to do it too. That there's nothing about you having a shaved head that you can't

She's got a shaved head and there's nothing about Cynthia Erivo that doesn't read femme, but femme in a powerful way. So it seems to me that if Cynthia Erivo can rock the shaved head look and still present femme, but with a butch glaze, that you should be able to do it too. That there's nothing about you having a shaved head that you can't

correct for, compensate for, balance out with other fashion choices or demeanor choices, comportment choices, behavioral choices where you're projecting your sense of your own femininity that your hair can't accomplish for you right now because your hair is going, if not gone. And I don't know how to sugarcoat that.

correct for, compensate for, balance out with other fashion choices or demeanor choices, comportment choices, behavioral choices where you're projecting your sense of your own femininity that your hair can't accomplish for you right now because your hair is going, if not gone. And I don't know how to sugarcoat that.

I wish I could send you some magic hair growing potions, but most of them don't work for most men. They can delay hair loss. They can't really correct or reverse it. Keep reading about and hearing about people going to Turkey. For some reason, Turkey is the world center of... hair transplant surgeries now. It's sort of a hair transplant mill in Istanbul.

I wish I could send you some magic hair growing potions, but most of them don't work for most men. They can delay hair loss. They can't really correct or reverse it. Keep reading about and hearing about people going to Turkey. For some reason, Turkey is the world center of... hair transplant surgeries now. It's sort of a hair transplant mill in Istanbul.

And a lot of people get really good results, including somebody I know went to Turkey and has really good results from that hair transplant procedure in Turkey where they're experts at this. But it does cost a lot of money, less than these procedures might cost in the United States. But you got to accept what you can't for now change. And confidence is sexy. And

And a lot of people get really good results, including somebody I know went to Turkey and has really good results from that hair transplant procedure in Turkey where they're experts at this. But it does cost a lot of money, less than these procedures might cost in the United States. But you got to accept what you can't for now change. And confidence is sexy. And

We are what we pretend to be, as Kurt Vonnegut said. And you can pretend to be confident. You can learn to love how you look with a shaved head by willing it. You can fake it till you make it. It takes some getting used to. It takes some time. But you can get there. I'm confident you can get there. And you can also play. You can play with different hat styles.

We are what we pretend to be, as Kurt Vonnegut said. And you can pretend to be confident. You can learn to love how you look with a shaved head by willing it. You can fake it till you make it. It takes some getting used to. It takes some time. But you can get there. I'm confident you can get there. And you can also play. You can play with different hat styles.