Dana K. White

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The Mel Robbins Podcast · How To Declutter Your Home: 5 Tips That Actually Work · 23 Nov 2024 podcast

It has gone in the donate box, or I have established a home by asking myself, where would I look for this first? And then I take it there now. Okay. So that's the key to all of this and people will resist it. Wow. And then I'll say, just try it. And then they will try it. And then they will email me and say, I cannot believe the difference.

I cannot believe I have actually made real progress decluttering for the first time in my life. It's working like it's changing my house because of that. Go ahead and take it there right now. But people don't like it, but it's still.

So all of those questions that you have in your mind, those are the natural questions that people think they need to ask when they're decluttering. I don't ask those questions. I stick to the facts. Okay. And so my process leads me through and helps me make those decisions, but without all of the emotions, because I brought all this stuff into my house because I saw the value in it. Right.

And so before when I would declutter, I would make value decision after value decision, which is exhausting. Right. It's so emotionally exhausting. And I know it is that then I would put off decluttering because I was like, I don't have it in me to make those kind of decisions today. Right. Like so instead I say, OK, if I needed this item, where would I look for it first?

And then I take it there now. And then I look at that space. And sometimes this is a common question people have is like, what do I do when that space is its own big decluttered mess? All I'm going to do is I'm going to not leave that space any worse. And I'm going to say, what am I willing to get rid of from this messy space where I would look for this item first?

What am I willing to get rid of from here that will create the space that I need for this item? And so it helps me instead of saying, does this thing have value? I say, is there a space for it? Can I just give you an example?

Well, okay. Is this normal? Yes. What you just described is your brain spinning out. Yes. That is exactly how my brain worked. Everything you said made sense to me. I get it. Right. And yet when I thought that way, my house was a disaster and I was frustrated with it. And I had all those feelings of what is wrong with me. Yeah. Okay. So, so I mean, I,

I hate to just be like, let's go back to the process, except that... No, let's go back to the process. The process is what talks you through all of this. Okay. Okay. So the second decluttering question that I only ask myself, it's my first response to where would I look for this first, whether it's about the jacket, whether it's about a stapler, whatever.

If I look at the item and I'm like, where would I look for this first? And my answer is... you know, like, okay. Then I asked myself the question, if I needed this item, would it ever occur to me that I already had one? Okay. We're not going to bring the scenario into it. We're just going to ask the fact based question. If I needed this jacket, Would it occur to me that we already had one?

And it's tough because you're holding it in your hand, right? Like it's there. It's in front of you. I had to make progress in my home. I had to get stuff out of my house, right? So I had to make these hard calls and say, I'm going to be honest. If I needed this, would it occur to me that I already had one?

Because I didn't have a place where I would look for it first, which means I would not have even gone looking for it. Instead, I would have done without, you know, we would have said, hey, here's six sweatshirts, kid who forgot your coat, right? Or, hey, let's run by the store and grab one, you know, or whatever. Yeah. Those are both valid options.

That right there is me saying, this is my reality check. I'm going to stick it in the donate box. Wow.

If I needed this item, would it ever occur to me that I already had one?

You didn't make a decision. Uh-oh. You... asked yourself a question that revealed your instinct of where you would look for it first. Sorry. No, no, no. Great, great, great.

If that's the place where you would look for it first, then you put it there. But if there is no thing there, like there's no place for it, but there's a pile of other stuff. Okay. I'm not going to leave that any worse. So what am I willing to get rid of in order to make room for this jacket? Which... Often, which means something is leaving your house, right?

So you are decluttering, but often it will help you realize, oh, wait. there's not actually a good place for this here. Or wait, I'm not willing to get rid of any of this stuff in order for this jacket to stay. And it will help you realize, oh, I can just donate this item.

But if you don't take it there now, you're living in this land of hypotheses. I'm still thinking about the damn jacket. Right now. You're like, oh, oh, I'm going to put it down there. Yeah, I'll make a space down there. Yes, yes. But you're not dealing with the reality of the actual space.

You're not dealing with the reality of if I take it down to this spot and then I realized this spot is full of spiders and all this stuff. And I don't want to leave a jacket down here. You know what I mean? Like, but when I go there, it forces me into that reality. So much of what I do, probably 100%, honestly, of what I do is just... A process that helps me accept reality.

Reality about myself, reality about my stuff, reality about my space, all that. I love this.

So you know how when you get sick from some kind of a food, And then you never want to eat that food again. It's because you had a negative experience with it. That's the beauty of decluttering. There's a big difference in what you see at the store or the garage sale. You'll start to see it as future clutter and it will naturally...

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