Danette

So they all gossip together in group chats with my husband and request that he tell me their advice.

My own family knows that I have my own way of doing things, and I have a lot of experience with children.

I used to care for multiple children with special needs, so my family doesn't even try to give opinions or advice.

My husband coming to me with all of their opinions is starting to weigh on our relationship.

I've told him this, but he heavily values his mom's opinions specifically and says I shouldn't take it as a bad thing and I should listen to her.

The kind of advice they give is things like saying, at three months old, he is ready for his own room and I shouldn't let him sleep in our room or I shouldn't let him nap in my arms anymore.

Saying, I never put enough clothes on him.

We live in a hot climate and my son sweats most of the time.

Telling me that I'm too attached to my son and should have less attachments.

She says this as she's butting into her 35-year-old son's marriage.

Dot, dot, dot, dot, dot.

There's a lot more, but I'll leave it at that.

I just wish my husband would trust in my parenting enough to have my back and not talk negatively about me to his family members.

Ideal outcome would be for my husband to trust in my parenting and defend me to his family instead of taking their side and telling me to listen to their advice.

Additional info,

Every person who criticizes my parenting are women who haven't raised children in over 20 years.

Coming on eight pretty soon.

Okay.

And that's ideal.

But what do you do when you don't have that?