Daniel Coyle

So these moments of, so they were able to, because they understood how community actually works, like they could have used that half hour to practice harder, right?

It seemed inefficient.

Why would we sit around and talk?

Come on, let's go practice.

Because this is how communities actually work.

You have to circle up, create that moment of genuine, risky, vulnerable, meaningful connection to create community.

And we're pre-wired to do it.

If we do it, it clicks on.

Maybe he wasn't that good.

My theory would be he's not that good at forming community with Hall of Fame voters.

He should have had a 4-H exercise with him before the ballot.

absolutely and there's a welcoming and an imperfection there's so many parts of our life that sort of perfection is expected i think in some ways the way we keep our lawns and the way we dress when we leave the house and this is just hospitality and everybody's showing up i don't know how it was in st pete but here it was a potluck so what'd you bring right everybody's literally bringing a gift and so i'm sharing mine with you and you're sharing with me when you actually look into the

word origin of community, it means sharing services and gifts, like that is what it is.

And so this idea that everyone, it's one of those sort of simple things, but this idea of orienting around gifts, because in every group, there are hidden gifts, and creating conditions where those gifts can show themselves, whether that's

in a conversation at work where we're trying to explore something new and you've got some hidden expertise that's connected to that or some experience in the navy that's connected to that i think flourishing groups are continually and that's why they're often built around questions rather than answers

But they're continually creating questions, continue creating space where gifts can come forward.

Because a gift is a double whammy.

You get not just the experience.

If mattering is about being valued and adding value, and I think that's one way to understand it.

I am valued and I'm adding value.