Daniel Pink

should have been intact, and it comes apart, usually in undramatic ways.

There's very little, there's like less drama than you would think.

Hey, I have my, hey, I went to college with my friend Mel and we were really tight.

And then, but I haven't seen her for 10 years.

I should really give her a call.

See how she's doing.

Oh no, it's gonna be so awkward and she's not gonna care.

So I don't do it.

And sometimes it's too late.

There's a one woman I interviewed who had a friend who was deeply ill and she hemmed and hawed about reaching out to her because she thought it was gonna be awkward.

And when she finally did call, the friend had died that morning.

That morning?

That morning.

There are other people who, one woman named Cheryl, who I interviewed, had this great friend from college, actually, who she drifted apart from.

And she, for 20 years, 25 years, and she didn't call her.

She wanted to call her, but she didn't call her.

So I got kind of frustrated with her because it was a classic example of a connection regret.

But as I have these interviews, I'm getting to know this person better.

And I'm thinking to myself, Cheryl, you know what to do here.

And so finally, I get an email maybe five days later.