Danielle Elliott

I would say for the last few months of the relationship, I think we were both, I think the nicest way to say it is like navigating our way out of it. Nice. I've been there. Yeah. That's probably the best way to put it. It was a conversation that I think we both knew was coming. I had been away on a work trip for a week. And during that week, I had been looking at other apartments.

I pointed out the apartment to him that I was like, I'm thinking about moving in there. And in my head, it was, we don't have to break up, but I could move into my own apartment, which is... And I apparently I know this now as we drove by it, his thought was like, oh, OK, good. I don't have to feel bad about the thing I'm about to say to her tonight. So then it was just like.

I pointed out the apartment to him that I was like, I'm thinking about moving in there. And in my head, it was, we don't have to break up, but I could move into my own apartment, which is... And I apparently I know this now as we drove by it, his thought was like, oh, OK, good. I don't have to feel bad about the thing I'm about to say to her tonight. So then it was just like.

When we got home, I remember being completely exhausted and I wondered if this played into my reaction. But it was as we were starting to fall asleep that he initiated a conversation that was like, I've been thinking this week and I feel like I'm holding you back. He said it very nicely, but I just had this reaction that was like, just it felt out of character.

When we got home, I remember being completely exhausted and I wondered if this played into my reaction. But it was as we were starting to fall asleep that he initiated a conversation that was like, I've been thinking this week and I feel like I'm holding you back. He said it very nicely, but I just had this reaction that was like, just it felt out of character.

Like I kind of don't remember the specific details of everything that was said. My reaction was very much like, this is it. We're not going back from here. And I was taking frames off the walls. Like all of my stuff was packed. That same night? By like four o'clock in the morning. Oh, wow. Yeah.

Like I kind of don't remember the specific details of everything that was said. My reaction was very much like, this is it. We're not going back from here. And I was taking frames off the walls. Like all of my stuff was packed. That same night? By like four o'clock in the morning. Oh, wow. Yeah.

And there wasn't like screaming, but it was just like the feeling in my body was even like, I feel like I was the meanest I've ever been. He tells me that I'm like, we're friends now. We've talked about it since. He's like, I think you're a little hard on yourself about how it went. But it was just such a visceral reaction. And the thing I finally came down to was like,

And there wasn't like screaming, but it was just like the feeling in my body was even like, I feel like I was the meanest I've ever been. He tells me that I'm like, we're friends now. We've talked about it since. He's like, I think you're a little hard on yourself about how it went. But it was just such a visceral reaction. And the thing I finally came down to was like,

Yeah, it was a thing I had also been thinking about doing but didn't. And it felt like such a strong rejection in the moment. I think I like got straight out of bed and got in the chair across the room, that kind of thing. And there was like a kid curled up in a ball in a weird way, too. Yeah. I mean, breakups are really hard. Well, the breakup was for the best. Yeah. Yeah.

Yeah, it was a thing I had also been thinking about doing but didn't. And it felt like such a strong rejection in the moment. I think I like got straight out of bed and got in the chair across the room, that kind of thing. And there was like a kid curled up in a ball in a weird way, too. Yeah. I mean, breakups are really hard. Well, the breakup was for the best. Yeah. Yeah.

That's why I couldn't understand why I was still feeling so weird about it.

That's why I couldn't understand why I was still feeling so weird about it.

I think I, in hindsight, was able to see how successfully I've avoided rejection my entire life. That I was sort of like, oh, this is the thing I've been avoiding. And this really does... Yeah, this is not fun. Okay.

I think I, in hindsight, was able to see how successfully I've avoided rejection my entire life. That I was sort of like, oh, this is the thing I've been avoiding. And this really does... Yeah, this is not fun. Okay.

I mean, I can tell you that like three or four. I don't know when I saw him again because I went straight. I like I remember my passport was being renewed and it came back three days later. And two days after that, I was in Mexico City. OK. And I stayed for a month and then I went to Belize. I'm out of here.

I mean, I can tell you that like three or four. I don't know when I saw him again because I went straight. I like I remember my passport was being renewed and it came back three days later. And two days after that, I was in Mexico City. OK. And I stayed for a month and then I went to Belize. I'm out of here.

But I know that whenever I saw him again, I remember him telling me that I should get my anger checked. So I think I was mean that night. Oh, okay. But he now said, I don't know if that was more his reaction, because he now is like, no, I don't think you were actually that bad that night. Yeah. In the moment, it felt bad. I mean, he was probably feeling the feelings as well. Yeah.

But I know that whenever I saw him again, I remember him telling me that I should get my anger checked. So I think I was mean that night. Oh, okay. But he now said, I don't know if that was more his reaction, because he now is like, no, I don't think you were actually that bad that night. Yeah. In the moment, it felt bad. I mean, he was probably feeling the feelings as well. Yeah.

And I don't think we'd gotten in a single fight our entire relationship. And that was probably more so me bottling some things up and like masking throughout the relationship. But it definitely caught him off guard.