Danielle Elliott

And I don't think we'd gotten in a single fight our entire relationship. And that was probably more so me bottling some things up and like masking throughout the relationship. But it definitely caught him off guard.

Yes.

Yes.

I mean, there were other moments in our relationship, and I know now that this is a very ADHD thing, but I regulated by completely shutting down. And in this moment, I didn't shut down. I just let it all out. I think it had felt to me a few times like if I said what I really thought, the relationship would end. And in this moment, it was already over.

I mean, there were other moments in our relationship, and I know now that this is a very ADHD thing, but I regulated by completely shutting down. And in this moment, I didn't shut down. I just let it all out. I think it had felt to me a few times like if I said what I really thought, the relationship would end. And in this moment, it was already over.

So I could say whatever I wanted because I was no longer risking anything.

So I could say whatever I wanted because I was no longer risking anything.

flail like yeah almost like going from the rejection to the what some people call raging which is an unfortunate term but it packs a lot of punch as a word in an interesting way i think the relationship itself helped me recognize my adhd once i knew how adhd shows up in relationships and i started looking back because it's like i think you can think that you've

flail like yeah almost like going from the rejection to the what some people call raging which is an unfortunate term but it packs a lot of punch as a word in an interesting way i think the relationship itself helped me recognize my adhd once i knew how adhd shows up in relationships and i started looking back because it's like i think you can think that you've

started to regulate your emotions and you've grown up and you, you know, you're in your mid thirties. And then I just started to realize that there were a lot of situations I had never been in because I hadn't been in a relationship. I hadn't been living with a partner.

started to regulate your emotions and you've grown up and you, you know, you're in your mid thirties. And then I just started to realize that there were a lot of situations I had never been in because I hadn't been in a relationship. I hadn't been living with a partner.

And seeing how I acted in those, I was like, I'm not as mature as I thought I was.

And seeing how I acted in those, I was like, I'm not as mature as I thought I was.

And I've been avoiding those situations my whole life.

And I've been avoiding those situations my whole life.

Yeah. I joke that it was the longest relationship I've had, but I've been in longer breakups. I get that. I've been in like situationships that lasted a lot longer. Situationships. Yeah. That's probably the best thing to call them. Yeah.

Yeah. I joke that it was the longest relationship I've had, but I've been in longer breakups. I get that. I've been in like situationships that lasted a lot longer. Situationships. Yeah. That's probably the best thing to call them. Yeah.

I think it always did work out a certain way. And then it shifted actually shortly after finding out I had ADHD. I remember I got the diagnosis and then I was sort of aware that I should be finding an apartment. But a friend of mine was going to Peru for a month. It's like, oh, great. Apartments in Peru are six hundred bucks a month and the flights two hundred.

I think it always did work out a certain way. And then it shifted actually shortly after finding out I had ADHD. I remember I got the diagnosis and then I was sort of aware that I should be finding an apartment. But a friend of mine was going to Peru for a month. It's like, oh, great. Apartments in Peru are six hundred bucks a month and the flights two hundred.

My rent here would be three thousand a month. You know, I did the math and of course I'm going to Peru for a month. I don't have an apartment yet. I'll just do this first. I remember specifically not telling my therapist I was going because she would have a reaction because I had just gotten back from this like Mexico and Belize.