Danielle Elliott

There were definitely a lot of moments where I wished I was capable of working for one company and wanting to stay there, but I would hit. There was one time I had a full-time job for two years and I hit the one-year mark and was like, really? It was like some sort of itch. And then at the second year, I quit because I was like, I just can't do this.

And I think I've been really lucky that things have lined up every time I do something like that. But things could have gone much worse.

And I think I've been really lucky that things have lined up every time I do something like that. But things could have gone much worse.

But yeah.

But yeah.

No, I haven't. I've dated a few people since then, but I'm now, I think, so much... Well, I think I had always had questions about how happy I would be in a relationship to begin with. I think I was 34 or 35 when that relationship started.

No, I haven't. I've dated a few people since then, but I'm now, I think, so much... Well, I think I had always had questions about how happy I would be in a relationship to begin with. I think I was 34 or 35 when that relationship started.

And I was becoming extremely aware that, like, people thought it was weird that I... Like, even... It was almost like you didn't get as much of a chance with people because they're like, you've never been in a relationship. I don't want to teach you how to be in a... You know, like, there's like a... So I think I was feeling rejection in that sense.

And I was becoming extremely aware that, like, people thought it was weird that I... Like, even... It was almost like you didn't get as much of a chance with people because they're like, you've never been in a relationship. I don't want to teach you how to be in a... You know, like, there's like a... So I think I was feeling rejection in that sense.

And there is a part of me sometimes that thinks the relationship lasted as long as it did because I was like, no, I'm going to have this almost like I don't know. I just it was like, no, no, no. I'm going to know what it's like to stick it out. I'm going to win at this. Yeah, exactly. And I'm going to at least know what it's like to have been in one for two years and like see what that's like.

And there is a part of me sometimes that thinks the relationship lasted as long as it did because I was like, no, I'm going to have this almost like I don't know. I just it was like, no, no, no. I'm going to know what it's like to stick it out. I'm going to win at this. Yeah, exactly. And I'm going to at least know what it's like to have been in one for two years and like see what that's like.

Yeah, and I think I was kind of internalizing what everyone around me was saying. Like, I think everyone was always like, are you ever going to settle down? Are you ever going to pick one? Are you ever going to do this? And there was a part of me that was like, I don't even know if it's all me not picking. There's also, like, I haven't met someone that makes sense to me. That's not a requirement.

Yeah, and I think I was kind of internalizing what everyone around me was saying. Like, I think everyone was always like, are you ever going to settle down? Are you ever going to pick one? Are you ever going to do this? And there was a part of me that was like, I don't even know if it's all me not picking. There's also, like, I haven't met someone that makes sense to me. That's not a requirement.

It's not a requirement.

It's not a requirement.

I mean, for me, it's even like if I send a pitch, even if I get a response from an editor quickly, it usually takes me almost like two or three days to open it because I don't want it to be a rejection. And it's like... Sometimes it's an acceptance, but they want to have a conversation. They're like, can you talk later today? And now I've wasted three days. I'm like, oh, my God, I'm so sorry.

I mean, for me, it's even like if I send a pitch, even if I get a response from an editor quickly, it usually takes me almost like two or three days to open it because I don't want it to be a rejection. And it's like... Sometimes it's an acceptance, but they want to have a conversation. They're like, can you talk later today? And now I've wasted three days. I'm like, oh, my God, I'm so sorry.

I didn't get back to you. But it's like my fear of like, I don't mind putting things out there, but I don't really want to know how anyone reacts to it for you. I mean, that's I was going to ask you about work, too.

I didn't get back to you. But it's like my fear of like, I don't mind putting things out there, but I don't really want to know how anyone reacts to it for you. I mean, that's I was going to ask you about work, too.

I think that I'm so much more confident in work than I am in dating that the sensitivity doesn't get to me as much. I think it's also easier to not take it personally. I don't think there's a journalist in the world who hasn't heard, editors are swamped. Like, if they don't read your pitch, it has nothing to do with you or your pitch.