Danielle Elliott

And I finally narrowed in on rejection. And then I started searching extreme reactions to rejection. And something popped up about rejection sensitivity and rejection sensitive dysphoria. As I read it, I was like, oh, this is actually a thing. This is not just one really strong reaction.

And I finally narrowed in on rejection. And then I started searching extreme reactions to rejection. And something popped up about rejection sensitivity and rejection sensitive dysphoria. As I read it, I was like, oh, this is actually a thing. This is not just one really strong reaction.

And in that article that I was reading, there was a line about rejection sensitivity often being a part of ADHD. It was sort of like, wait a minute, is this like, do I have ADHD? And then I started looking more into ADHD. I talked to my therapist and it just went from there.

And in that article that I was reading, there was a line about rejection sensitivity often being a part of ADHD. It was sort of like, wait a minute, is this like, do I have ADHD? And then I started looking more into ADHD. I talked to my therapist and it just went from there.

I would say for the last few months of the relationship, I think we were both, I think the nicest way to say it is like navigating our way out of it. Nice. I've been there. Yeah. That's probably the best way to put it. It was a conversation that I think we both knew was coming. I had been away on a work trip for a week. And during that week, I had been looking at other apartments.

I would say for the last few months of the relationship, I think we were both, I think the nicest way to say it is like navigating our way out of it. Nice. I've been there. Yeah. That's probably the best way to put it. It was a conversation that I think we both knew was coming. I had been away on a work trip for a week. And during that week, I had been looking at other apartments.

I pointed out the apartment to him that I was like, I'm thinking about moving in there. And in my head, it was, we don't have to break up, but I could move into my own apartment, which is... And I apparently I know this now as we drove by it, his thought was like, oh, OK, good. I don't have to feel bad about the thing I'm about to say to her tonight. So then it was just like.

I pointed out the apartment to him that I was like, I'm thinking about moving in there. And in my head, it was, we don't have to break up, but I could move into my own apartment, which is... And I apparently I know this now as we drove by it, his thought was like, oh, OK, good. I don't have to feel bad about the thing I'm about to say to her tonight. So then it was just like.

When we got home, I remember being completely exhausted and I wondered if this played into my reaction. But it was as we were starting to fall asleep that he initiated a conversation that was like, I've been thinking this week and I feel like I'm holding you back. He said it very nicely, but I just had this reaction that was like, just it felt out of character.

When we got home, I remember being completely exhausted and I wondered if this played into my reaction. But it was as we were starting to fall asleep that he initiated a conversation that was like, I've been thinking this week and I feel like I'm holding you back. He said it very nicely, but I just had this reaction that was like, just it felt out of character.

Like I kind of don't remember the specific details of everything that was said. My reaction was very much like, this is it. We're not going back from here. And I was taking frames off the walls. Like all of my stuff was packed. That same night? By like four o'clock in the morning. Oh, wow. Yeah.

Like I kind of don't remember the specific details of everything that was said. My reaction was very much like, this is it. We're not going back from here. And I was taking frames off the walls. Like all of my stuff was packed. That same night? By like four o'clock in the morning. Oh, wow. Yeah.

And there wasn't like screaming, but it was just like the feeling in my body was even like, I feel like I was the meanest I've ever been. He tells me that I'm like, we're friends now. We've talked about it since. He's like, I think you're a little hard on yourself about how it went. But it was just such a visceral reaction. And the thing I finally came down to was like,

And there wasn't like screaming, but it was just like the feeling in my body was even like, I feel like I was the meanest I've ever been. He tells me that I'm like, we're friends now. We've talked about it since. He's like, I think you're a little hard on yourself about how it went. But it was just such a visceral reaction. And the thing I finally came down to was like,

Yeah, it was a thing I had also been thinking about doing but didn't. And it felt like such a strong rejection in the moment. I think I like got straight out of bed and got in the chair across the room, that kind of thing. And there was like a kid curled up in a ball in a weird way, too. Yeah. I mean, breakups are really hard. Well, the breakup was for the best. Yeah. Yeah.

Yeah, it was a thing I had also been thinking about doing but didn't. And it felt like such a strong rejection in the moment. I think I like got straight out of bed and got in the chair across the room, that kind of thing. And there was like a kid curled up in a ball in a weird way, too. Yeah. I mean, breakups are really hard. Well, the breakup was for the best. Yeah. Yeah.

That's why I couldn't understand why I was still feeling so weird about it.

That's why I couldn't understand why I was still feeling so weird about it.

I think I, in hindsight, was able to see how successfully I've avoided rejection my entire life. That I was sort of like, oh, this is the thing I've been avoiding. And this really does... Yeah, this is not fun. Okay.

I think I, in hindsight, was able to see how successfully I've avoided rejection my entire life. That I was sort of like, oh, this is the thing I've been avoiding. And this really does... Yeah, this is not fun. Okay.