Danielle Elliott

Well, it was when I read ADHD 2.0, Ned Hallowell and John Rady's most recent book, where they talk about, they don't say everything's a superpower, but they talk about pairs of opposites.

And kind of like, I think a good example, one that really helped me was that creative people, you can understand that they ruminate a lot and that rumination is potentially described as creativity applied to the past. And I ruminate kind of horrendously. And I think since reading that, I've been able to recognize when I'm doing it.

And kind of like, I think a good example, one that really helped me was that creative people, you can understand that they ruminate a lot and that rumination is potentially described as creativity applied to the past. And I ruminate kind of horrendously. And I think since reading that, I've been able to recognize when I'm doing it.

And they give you some tools in that book for essentially changing the channel in your brain so that you're not ruminating anymore. And some of the tools are so simple. But as I was reading that book, it was like, oh, I can do things about this. And I don't have to spend... money every week to see an ADHD coach, which I think ADHD coaches are incredibly beneficial for a lot of people.

And they give you some tools in that book for essentially changing the channel in your brain so that you're not ruminating anymore. And some of the tools are so simple. But as I was reading that book, it was like, oh, I can do things about this. And I don't have to spend... money every week to see an ADHD coach, which I think ADHD coaches are incredibly beneficial for a lot of people.

But for me, it's like financial insecurity will always be the thing that stresses me out more than thinking I'm living with untreated ADHD.

But for me, it's like financial insecurity will always be the thing that stresses me out more than thinking I'm living with untreated ADHD.

Yeah. So anyway, I think it was just like the acceptance kind of came when I saw other framings of ADHD traits.

Yeah. So anyway, I think it was just like the acceptance kind of came when I saw other framings of ADHD traits.

Yeah. I mean, my takeaway from my initial stuff was like, oh, my relationships haven't worked out because they don't work out for people with ADHD. And like things that I've wanted to fix about myself, quote unquote, like you can read every book you want on relationship theory.

Yeah. I mean, my takeaway from my initial stuff was like, oh, my relationships haven't worked out because they don't work out for people with ADHD. And like things that I've wanted to fix about myself, quote unquote, like you can read every book you want on relationship theory.

I'm not going to like I kind of had this like my read on it was like I think the three things I remember the most were like ADHD is really hard on careers.

I'm not going to like I kind of had this like my read on it was like I think the three things I remember the most were like ADHD is really hard on careers.

relationships and parenting and I was like I can completely see the ways it negatively impacted my career as much as I love where I am now it would have been interesting I think to have a brain that likes a straight path like I just don't know what that's like and like to not I have never stayed happy in anything whether it's a relationship like I don't know how to sustain interest

relationships and parenting and I was like I can completely see the ways it negatively impacted my career as much as I love where I am now it would have been interesting I think to have a brain that likes a straight path like I just don't know what that's like and like to not I have never stayed happy in anything whether it's a relationship like I don't know how to sustain interest

in anything beyond when I really do the math it's like for four months I'm really interested I can last a year anything beyond a year the second year I'm miserable and it's a really sad way to like do that math and I don't think that's true of everyone with ADHD but when I first got that diagnosis it was like oh yeah no I can see how it affected my career it's tough to change anything now it's like you're almost 40 you're not going to restart your career but

in anything beyond when I really do the math it's like for four months I'm really interested I can last a year anything beyond a year the second year I'm miserable and it's a really sad way to like do that math and I don't think that's true of everyone with ADHD but when I first got that diagnosis it was like oh yeah no I can see how it affected my career it's tough to change anything now it's like you're almost 40 you're not going to restart your career but

Um, I can see how it affected relationships. I was diagnosed right before my 37th birthday. So I was sort of like, it's pretty late. Like it, like it would have been nice to know this at 30 is how I felt. Cause it's like, if there are ways to approach dating with ADHD that are slightly, or just things to be aware of, it would have been nice to know them when you're in like the heart of your life.

Um, I can see how it affected relationships. I was diagnosed right before my 37th birthday. So I was sort of like, it's pretty late. Like it, like it would have been nice to know this at 30 is how I felt. Cause it's like, if there are ways to approach dating with ADHD that are slightly, or just things to be aware of, it would have been nice to know them when you're in like the heart of your life.

dating, like period, I guess you could say. Yeah. And then with parenting, it was still a thing that I wanted to do. And it was like, oh, great. Now you're telling me that's going to be really hard too. Like, I just don't want to hear any of it.