Dave Evans
👤 SpeakerAppearances Over Time
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Be very careful because all questions have belief systems.
If it turns out the life-directing question you're currently suffering—
has a belief system you don't agree with, you're in trouble.
So if the first thing I think after something goes awry is, what did I do wrong?
There are two assumptions built into that question, both of which I think are dead wrong and are very dangerous.
So if the first question after a mistake or a failure is, what did I do wrong?
What does that question already believe is true?
Bingo.
It does believe that if I'd done everything right, it would have worked.
Mm-hmm.
And that the thing that didn't get done right, which would have caused it to work, was mine.
Which are both, frankly, incredibly egotistical things.
I mean, it's not true if you do it all right that it'll work.
And it's not necessarily your mistake.
So a better question than what did I do wrong, which goes right to, and if I'd done it right, it would have worked, which is wrong.
It's false.
What's a better first question?
After a mistake, after a failure.
Why did this happen?
Just what happened?