Dave Evans

Be very careful because all questions have belief systems.

If it turns out the life-directing question you're currently suffering—

has a belief system you don't agree with, you're in trouble.

So if the first thing I think after something goes awry is, what did I do wrong?

There are two assumptions built into that question, both of which I think are dead wrong and are very dangerous.

So if the first question after a mistake or a failure is, what did I do wrong?

What does that question already believe is true?

Bingo.

It does believe that if I'd done everything right, it would have worked.

Mm-hmm.

And that the thing that didn't get done right, which would have caused it to work, was mine.

Which are both, frankly, incredibly egotistical things.

I mean, it's not true if you do it all right that it'll work.

And it's not necessarily your mistake.

So a better question than what did I do wrong, which goes right to, and if I'd done it right, it would have worked, which is wrong.

It's false.

What's a better first question?

After a mistake, after a failure.

Why did this happen?

Just what happened?