Dave Evans

And when I'm with other people who are moving toward that resonance with themselves, it's harmonic to my own.

So you're talking about climate change and I'm having an idea about oil redistribution.

You know, it turns out you being you enables me to be me.

So that's what a formative community does.

And there's a certain kind of conversation they can have.

And so we'll say it's almost impossible to hear yourself by yourself because we're fundamentally social animals.

So if there is a place where I can be heard, then I might even tap into hearing my own story well enough that I can grow further into it.

So a formative community is a particularly meaning-making experience because it moves me along that becoming pathway more regularly, more reliably, and if we're lucky, more quickly.

It's not a bad thing because, again, back to particularly in the first half of life, those early adult years, what's really going on is you're building an ego, right?

the first person who really needs to believe that you're okay is you.

So if my decision to rely entirely on myself is a stringent approach to saying, I need to get to a place of self-trust, and it turns out I can't afford to let that leak off where, oh, it was really Anne, she really saved my butt.

So, you know, but that should be temporary.

I should get over it.

And now I'm actually free to be part of something bigger than myself.

Oh, that's going to be rough.

And I am saying, too, part of the us doesn't have to be people that are bleeding off your role in the goal pursuit that you're currently producing toward.

So you can find a conversation to be in, which is around us.

How's it going?

How are you becoming?

What's the next question you want to be growing or learning your way into?