Dave Ramsey

And spend your time on that.

I would spend all of my energy on that.

If you want to go back to work while you're doing that, that's fine.

Or if you're going back to work and in your mind you're going, I need some money because I need to hire an attorney and this is over, then that's a decision.

That's a logical decision.

I'm not sure it's a good one, but it's a logical one at least.

But it's just, I'm going to come home and then I'm going to go back to work and then I'm going to come home.

And meanwhile, everything's burning down around me.

And I'm ignoring that.

And that's not okay.

It's not going to help you.

So, yeah, go on back to work.

That's fine.

I don't care.

Doesn't matter.

But you're still going to have hell on earth until you deal with this.

That's not going away until you deal with it.

So my suggestion is you use some of your new income to pay another marriage counselor, a different one, and the two of you lean into that.

And if you're not going to lean into that and heal this thing, then call it.

If you're not going to fix it, call it, because your children are suffering in the middle of this cesspool right now that you call a relationship.