Dave Rosenthal

See, but being indispensable implies that others must see you as such. Now, you're putting that level of self-worth in the hands of others, right?

See, but being indispensable implies that others must see you as such. Now, you're putting that level of self-worth in the hands of others, right?

what to me i don't understand where you're coming from jared to me the way i i and i used to approach it like this right i used to because i like for people to like me right we all do like it's like you know it's ingrained in us as human beings right we we want to be like we we we're a tribal sort of you know kind of entity right so the the we don't want rejection right from the tribe right we want to be welcomed and and liked and say oh it

what to me i don't understand where you're coming from jared to me the way i i and i used to approach it like this right i used to because i like for people to like me right we all do like it's like you know it's ingrained in us as human beings right we we want to be like we we we're a tribal sort of you know kind of entity right so the the we don't want rejection right from the tribe right we want to be welcomed and and liked and say oh it

Johnny, hey, how you doing? Because, you know, by being that sort of likable, by being the one that always delivers, always comes through, right? You're the one teammate, everybody can just call in and boom, you just solve all the problems, right? By being that, right, you get that sort of that little hit of dopamine, right? It's like, ah, I love when people love me, right?

Johnny, hey, how you doing? Because, you know, by being that sort of likable, by being the one that always delivers, always comes through, right? You're the one teammate, everybody can just call in and boom, you just solve all the problems, right? By being that, right, you get that sort of that little hit of dopamine, right? It's like, ah, I love when people love me, right?

But you're putting that sort of self-worth in the hands of others. And nobody will tell you, like a stoic, right? Nobody will tell you how dangerous that is than those who know how it feels when all that adoration and admiration gets pulled back for one reason or another. Because it's not in your control, right? What is in your control, right, is how good a job you do.

But you're putting that sort of self-worth in the hands of others. And nobody will tell you, like a stoic, right? Nobody will tell you how dangerous that is than those who know how it feels when all that adoration and admiration gets pulled back for one reason or another. Because it's not in your control, right? What is in your control, right, is how good a job you do.

how well you deliver on the mission, the work, whatever you've been assigned to do, however small it might be, right? If you can deliver and objectively say, hey, I did a good job there, what people think of me as a result is not in your control. So I'm like, hey, whether that praise comes or goes, it doesn't matter to me, right?

how well you deliver on the mission, the work, whatever you've been assigned to do, however small it might be, right? If you can deliver and objectively say, hey, I did a good job there, what people think of me as a result is not in your control. So I'm like, hey, whether that praise comes or goes, it doesn't matter to me, right?

Because at the end of the day, I know if I get laid off, it's not going to matter how much praise I got or didn't get because that too is outside of my control. The only thing I have control over is the work that I'm doing right now. And how good do I feel when I've delivered it and get up and walk away from this keyboard, right? How do I feel about myself?

Because at the end of the day, I know if I get laid off, it's not going to matter how much praise I got or didn't get because that too is outside of my control. The only thing I have control over is the work that I'm doing right now. And how good do I feel when I've delivered it and get up and walk away from this keyboard, right? How do I feel about myself?

You can keep your job, Jared.

You can keep your job, Jared.

Interesting enough, something you said earlier brought back a fond memory. One of the positions in the past that I got laid off from was, Actually, no, that one was, I can call it a firing, right? Because, you know, it wasn't, oh, we're making cuts because, you know, finances or whatever that you typically hear these days.

Interesting enough, something you said earlier brought back a fond memory. One of the positions in the past that I got laid off from was, Actually, no, that one was, I can call it a firing, right? Because, you know, it wasn't, oh, we're making cuts because, you know, finances or whatever that you typically hear these days.

It was like, we didn't think, we were expecting something else, but we got something different. And which I'm like completely fine with, right? What happened though, I think maybe six months later or less than a year later, like to piggyback on what Adam was saying about, you know, never burning bridges, right? Like we parted ways like very amicably. Right. That was not resentful.

It was like, we didn't think, we were expecting something else, but we got something different. And which I'm like completely fine with, right? What happened though, I think maybe six months later or less than a year later, like to piggyback on what Adam was saying about, you know, never burning bridges, right? Like we parted ways like very amicably. Right. That was not resentful.

You know, we did the thing. We sat down from across from each other, looked each other in the eye, say, hey, I was expecting this. I didn't get that. And I was like, OK, like completely understand. We remain friends. Right. And this was back in Boston. So we remain friends and everything. And six months later. Right. Or however long we actually go and have lunch together. Right.

You know, we did the thing. We sat down from across from each other, looked each other in the eye, say, hey, I was expecting this. I didn't get that. And I was like, OK, like completely understand. We remain friends. Right. And this was back in Boston. So we remain friends and everything. And six months later. Right. Or however long we actually go and have lunch together. Right.