David Cooper (host)

She's a psychology professor at York University.

Amy, welcome to the show.

So the attachment styles, this is sort of how you're wired to form relationships.

But you want to give us a quick overview before we get into how they affect what your best date might be?

At the risk of derailing slash soliciting free psychology advice, if I'm avoidant and my girlfriend is attachment anxious, can we does it will it work?

Can it work between two people like that?

Which is what we do.

Okay, enough about me.

We are told though, like the best relationship advice generally is kind of like try new things, right?

Talk to me about when that doesn't work.

Got it.

So if I am an avoidance, I know what I am, like fun, new experiences, that common wisdom is true.

What happens if I have an anxious attachment style?

What kind of activities would sort of boost intimacy?

What would be really great to do with my partner?

But it's not it's not like harmful or bad for them to also try new things.

It's just a little bit added benefits if they do.

OK, got it.

Got it.

Got it.