David Kessler

Well, in grief, it is a time when our best friends, our spouses, can feel like strangers.

But strangers can feel like friends and family.

Here's the thing.

If your spouse, if your best friend, if your sister who gets everything doesn't get your grief, let it go.

Like the saying, you can't walk up and down the aisle of a hardware store hoping to find milk.

Let it go.

Let them off the hook.

They're not your support.

I tell people, the issue isn't that they can't support you.

The issue is you're going back to them after they're saying, I don't have the tools.

I love you, but got no tools except move on.

So, but there's other people out there.

And you got to be like a GPS.

and go, okay, all right, not spouse, not spouse, not spouse, and switch over to someone else.

Do you have- Sometimes people call them feeling grievers, but I think that just sort of- So it's sort of like practical grievers and everybody else.

don't have other people in their life to say that.

And when someone's sinking, we say, you're sure sinking too long.

Swim.

And they're still sinking.

And we need to just be there with them, not change them.