David Sutcliffe

Generally, what we do is we suppress it because we want to create an idealized self-image that we're good. We don't want to know that part of ourself. And so it's in the place where it's hard to be compassionate for ourself. It's really hard to be compassionate from that place where there's this deep-rooted belief that there's something about us that's not okay.

Generally, what we do is we suppress it because we want to create an idealized self-image that we're good. We don't want to know that part of ourself. And so it's in the place where it's hard to be compassionate for ourself. It's really hard to be compassionate from that place where there's this deep-rooted belief that there's something about us that's not okay.

Yeah, well, there's, and I understand it. You know, there's a belief that if I'm hard on myself, like I'm going to achieve more, right? Having that militant general in your head. And I think that's useful. I mean, I want a tough coach. I loved tough coaches. I love coaches that pushed me and who were clear. And if I wasn't meeting the standard, they'd let me know. I liked that.

Yeah, well, there's, and I understand it. You know, there's a belief that if I'm hard on myself, like I'm going to achieve more, right? Having that militant general in your head. And I think that's useful. I mean, I want a tough coach. I loved tough coaches. I love coaches that pushed me and who were clear. And if I wasn't meeting the standard, they'd let me know. I liked that.

Yeah, well, there's, and I understand it. You know, there's a belief that if I'm hard on myself, like I'm going to achieve more, right? Having that militant general in your head. And I think that's useful. I mean, I want a tough coach. I loved tough coaches. I love coaches that pushed me and who were clear. And if I wasn't meeting the standard, they'd let me know. I liked that.

And if they were disappointed in me, they also let me know.

And if they were disappointed in me, they also let me know.

And if they were disappointed in me, they also let me know.

But at the same time, if that coach doesn't have the capacity to love me, to be there for me, to see me as human, right? And to transcend the performance of the goal and go underneath that, I don't really trust him. And ultimately it's going to unravel. And you see these coaches, those hard apps coaches, they don't last long. They move from team to team.

But at the same time, if that coach doesn't have the capacity to love me, to be there for me, to see me as human, right? And to transcend the performance of the goal and go underneath that, I don't really trust him. And ultimately it's going to unravel. And you see these coaches, those hard apps coaches, they don't last long. They move from team to team.

But at the same time, if that coach doesn't have the capacity to love me, to be there for me, to see me as human, right? And to transcend the performance of the goal and go underneath that, I don't really trust him. And ultimately it's going to unravel. And you see these coaches, those hard apps coaches, they don't last long. They move from team to team.

It's like a little bit of medicine that maybe that team needs for a couple of years, but then they move on, right? So I think we need both things. We need... We need to push ourselves, but we also need compassion for ourselves. And again, it's easy to rationalize. Again, the mind is very, very tricky. And so it's like, oh, I could take the day off today, things like that.

It's like a little bit of medicine that maybe that team needs for a couple of years, but then they move on, right? So I think we need both things. We need... We need to push ourselves, but we also need compassion for ourselves. And again, it's easy to rationalize. Again, the mind is very, very tricky. And so it's like, oh, I could take the day off today, things like that.

It's like a little bit of medicine that maybe that team needs for a couple of years, but then they move on, right? So I think we need both things. We need... We need to push ourselves, but we also need compassion for ourselves. And again, it's easy to rationalize. Again, the mind is very, very tricky. And so it's like, oh, I could take the day off today, things like that.

And so we want to mitigate against that. So it's a really, really tricky balance. And I struggle with it all the time. Where is the balance between pushing myself and self-compassion?

And so we want to mitigate against that. So it's a really, really tricky balance. And I struggle with it all the time. Where is the balance between pushing myself and self-compassion?

And so we want to mitigate against that. So it's a really, really tricky balance. And I struggle with it all the time. Where is the balance between pushing myself and self-compassion?

Yeah, I think that's exactly right. Different energies, different qualities at different times in our life. But I agree with you. If I was going from zero trying to get into shape, I'd want a hard-ass motherfucker driving me all the time. Get David Goggins screaming in my face. Exactly. That's going to get me there as quick as possible. I'm going to learn something about myself.

Yeah, I think that's exactly right. Different energies, different qualities at different times in our life. But I agree with you. If I was going from zero trying to get into shape, I'd want a hard-ass motherfucker driving me all the time. Get David Goggins screaming in my face. Exactly. That's going to get me there as quick as possible. I'm going to learn something about myself.

Yeah, I think that's exactly right. Different energies, different qualities at different times in our life. But I agree with you. If I was going from zero trying to get into shape, I'd want a hard-ass motherfucker driving me all the time. Get David Goggins screaming in my face. Exactly. That's going to get me there as quick as possible. I'm going to learn something about myself.