Deepika Chopra

And so when I work with people, I'm working a lot within that gap and closing that gap of want and expectation.

They're so powerful because again, your brain prioritizes putting forth all the steps and necessary attention and solution focus into the things that it deems

possible to happen and likely to happen and you can want until the cows come home but unless you expect it to happen your brain's not helping you out with all the different things and the pathways that you need to actually put yourself into taking an action like buying a lottery ticket or if you do not you could want a relationship so badly you can

Think about it.

You can cut out words related to it and stick them on a piece of paper.

You could really rate 10 out of 10, I want to be in a relationship.

But then if I ask that same person, one to 10, how much do you expect or believe that this is going to happen for you?

And if that's somewhere living in three or four, your brain is not putting forth the energy or the attention or the pathways to connect you

to doing and taking part in the behaviors that would actually likely get you to be in a place like, for example, you most likely are not thinking or saying yes, or hoping to the idea when someone invites you somewhere or putting yourself in a situation where meeting somebody that could be a future partner is likely to happen.

And so until you close that gap and you see it more as a possibility, we don't have the brain and the way it works on our side.

And that is a powerful mechanism.

And so I think we skip that part a lot.

We skip it over on what am I truly expecting to happen?

What do I really think?

I don't know what I want, but how likely do I think that it can occur for me?

And this is not magical thinking.

It's literally thought, emotions, and behaviors and taking action.

And I think another piece that's missing in the process is most always these things take work.

And there is a journey and it's not about thinking about something and then expecting that it just falls into our lap.

There's a lot of process in between that.