Deepika Chopra

And then over time, as we grow up and we have our own experiences and appraise all the situations that we go through and we start collecting them as evidence, I'm a big believer that the brain is constantly collecting evidence.

We're like detectives.

And the more we do this, first of all, we make a belief and then from that, our brain

loves to collect more evidence to make something we believe even more true.

And so then that belief has become further cemented and we just go through life because we're tuned into that radio station constantly and quickly seeking out ever more evidence to make whatever that belief is more and more true until it becomes a core belief.

And this process over time just becomes automatic because, again, it's part of our brain's efficiency.

And sometimes that can be a good thing.

And a lot of times that can be a detrimental thing.

And so when you tell someone that has collected enough evidence and has cemented a belief strongly enough over 40 years, 30 years, even 20 years, that they believe something like I am unlovable.

And then you tell them to just look in front of the mirror and say, I am lovable, deserving.

I'm a deserving of love person.

I'm lovable three times before bed and three times when they wake up.

That is the place where it can become not just not useful, but actually detrimental because now your brain starts to resurface and almost a opening a file in a computer, it clicks on the file of

I am unlovable and it starts all the other files within it and documents start populating of all the reasons why you are not lovable.

the reasons why you do believe that belief and how silly of you to ever think that you would say this statement that is the complete opposite and how not only do you further believe what you believe, but you also feel shame and guilt and a real dip in confidence for even saying that other thing out loud.

And so it can be very detrimental to people that are really holding this self limiting belief that needed the most.

And so I,

have come up with something that I call the seven tenths rule.

And I really believe in measurable, quantitative ways to work within these constructs and these tools.

I come from a cognitive behavioral background.