Deidre

Every day has a lead up.

At least after three weeks of us consistently hanging out, kicking it.

The first date?

Even having that in your brain of let me wait until the fifth date to ask questions is also fucking weird.

I think a month is appropriate.

Whenever you feel comfortable enough to do it, it's not the first date.

You can feel when it's

yeah the time to ask like a deeper like something may happen yeah and the person reacts in a certain way and you start talking about that like why like what happened like why would you react do you think it's something like affecting from your past your childhood like what's going then you can kind of fall into another conversation but you shouldn't be at the first kick it like laying it on so heavy like look i'm not gonna waste your time you're not gonna i'm not gonna allow you to waste my time it's like that's so off got here like yeah like what do you hate that

like relax you can but i feel like you can date with intention without being awkward and cringe you can you can absolutely like i feel like they're that's what we're saying that's what we would prefer we would prefer to be like not awkward but you know if you if you have your intentions i'm not telling you not to have any intentions but don't just lay it on the table like yo this is what it is yeah like before the apps come out yeah and this is what it ain't like it's like yo oh damn like let's see y'all say women never mind okay

How would I know if I don't know you?

i could maybe just want to fuck or maybe this could be my life partner exactly i don't know i don't have to meet you at that level let's just see how this evolves as it happens over time i don't need to come in with like no but i'm saying i respect what the marriage is saying as if a girl just tells you like currently where i'm at like if i am dating someone not saying with me or with the person she's with at the at the date but she's saying like if i'm dating somebody right now in my life it's intentional like but who's to say if we're on a date can be true i

I totally understand what Damaris is saying.

Also, I could find someone very attractive and think in my head, I would want to sleep with that person.

And we go on a date.

I don't know yet if I have an intention to be with her forever or just want to fuck that day.

I don't know yet.

So two things can be true.

Damaris, we're sitting at dinner for the first time.

We do the DMs or whatever.

We meet up.