Deidre

But I believe in double standards.

I want to be with someone I want to be with.

And I don't know that until I get to know you.

Sure, but not with someone that I shouldn't be in a relationship with.

But how do you know that until it happens?

Like you're never going to know while you're working towards your goals or like...

then at what point do we say, I'm done with my goals at 35, and now I'm ready to date with intention for relationships?

You have to let life take its course.

I could be busy as fuck and feel like maybe I don't have time for a relationship, and then I could meet somebody where I will compromise a lot of my life for it.

I think y'all are both making good points.

What Damaris is saying is,

you can have certain things and boundaries like, yo, this is what I want in my life right now.

Or, yo, I don't have time for that right now, this and the third.

But also, you can have all of these things in your mind of where you're at and what you're not going to accept and...

But then you meet somebody that completely just all of that shit just... Goes out the window.

Y'all do.

Y'all do that.

But a lot of the times y'all go into it like that.

But what happens is you end up catching feelings.

Women fall more often.