Deirdre O'Kane

Everything is telling me and all of my life experience so far, this is happening and this is a thing.

How does this impact the other aspects of my life?

Am I ready for this?

So you have to have the chat with yourself.

Am I going into this now?

Yeah, I'm going into this.

That's all gut instinct.

And your gut instinct is so self-reliant.

You're so reliant on your instinct for so much in your life.

And you trust it and it's been good to you.

And so you don't have any real reason to question your gut instinct with a person like this.

But they are just con men.

They are literally con men who are like talking the talk, making you think that they're as invested as you are.

They get what they want, which is presumably a weekend of intimacy.

Yeah, or the validation of I've got it, I've whatever.

It's so weird, isn't it?

So for those people, I was just trying to think like, what is it?

Is it the chase?

I think there's a certain type of person who loves the chase and getting you.

Like actually, they know that they have to invest a bit to get you.