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Derek

๐Ÿ‘ค Speaker
7547 total appearances

Appearances Over Time

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The Viall Files
E917 Ask Nick - My Boyfriend Stole My Job

You want them to recognize your feelings and you kept invoking your feelings and you're like, I feel this way. It's going to make me feel this way. It's going to, you're going to be the person who's going to make me feel this way. And I, you know, and he was, and so it's just like, it didn't really matter.

The Viall Files
E917 Ask Nick - My Boyfriend Stole My Job

I don't think he ever asked you not to go for it for his feelings.

The Viall Files
E917 Ask Nick - My Boyfriend Stole My Job

I don't think he ever asked you not to go for it for his feelings.

The Viall Files
E917 Ask Nick - My Boyfriend Stole My Job

I don't think he ever asked you not to go for it for his feelings.

The Viall Files
E917 Ask Nick - My Boyfriend Stole My Job

He asked you to buy. I don't know. Listen, like people come up with crazy shit. Like it's not that crazy that he couldn't have come in there even a month later and said, I'm just better for like, listen, I got more experience. I'm just like,

The Viall Files
E917 Ask Nick - My Boyfriend Stole My Job

He asked you to buy. I don't know. Listen, like people come up with crazy shit. Like it's not that crazy that he couldn't have come in there even a month later and said, I'm just better for like, listen, I got more experience. I'm just like,

The Viall Files
E917 Ask Nick - My Boyfriend Stole My Job

He asked you to buy. I don't know. Listen, like people come up with crazy shit. Like it's not that crazy that he couldn't have come in there even a month later and said, I'm just better for like, listen, I got more experience. I'm just like,

The Viall Files
E917 Ask Nick - My Boyfriend Stole My Job

But the point I'm just trying to make is like, sometimes the answer is to try to take, remove your feelings. You can't ask him to remove his feelings and expect him to acknowledge yours.

The Viall Files
E917 Ask Nick - My Boyfriend Stole My Job

But the point I'm just trying to make is like, sometimes the answer is to try to take, remove your feelings. You can't ask him to remove his feelings and expect him to acknowledge yours.

The Viall Files
E917 Ask Nick - My Boyfriend Stole My Job

But the point I'm just trying to make is like, sometimes the answer is to try to take, remove your feelings. You can't ask him to remove his feelings and expect him to acknowledge yours.

The Viall Files
E917 Ask Nick - My Boyfriend Stole My Job

And you didn't even really ask him or give a shit about how he felt about the fact that you were going to, compete with him at this job. You just felt entitled because you got called first. And from a relationship standpoint, you definitely, I feel his frustration.

The Viall Files
E917 Ask Nick - My Boyfriend Stole My Job

And you didn't even really ask him or give a shit about how he felt about the fact that you were going to, compete with him at this job. You just felt entitled because you got called first. And from a relationship standpoint, you definitely, I feel his frustration.

The Viall Files
E917 Ask Nick - My Boyfriend Stole My Job

And you didn't even really ask him or give a shit about how he felt about the fact that you were going to, compete with him at this job. You just felt entitled because you got called first. And from a relationship standpoint, you definitely, I feel his frustration.

The Viall Files
E917 Ask Nick - My Boyfriend Stole My Job

You know, because from a relationship standpoint, it's very hard to try to get on the same page with someone who feels entitled to something that they feel like you're not to. Because immediately they just have the upper hand. It's like, no matter what, kind of like you did, there's a but that says, but I'm entitled to it.

The Viall Files
E917 Ask Nick - My Boyfriend Stole My Job

You know, because from a relationship standpoint, it's very hard to try to get on the same page with someone who feels entitled to something that they feel like you're not to. Because immediately they just have the upper hand. It's like, no matter what, kind of like you did, there's a but that says, but I'm entitled to it.

The Viall Files
E917 Ask Nick - My Boyfriend Stole My Job

You know, because from a relationship standpoint, it's very hard to try to get on the same page with someone who feels entitled to something that they feel like you're not to. Because immediately they just have the upper hand. It's like, no matter what, kind of like you did, there's a but that says, but I'm entitled to it.

The Viall Files
E917 Ask Nick - My Boyfriend Stole My Job

I was invested. I guess I would agree that you can't help but you feel that way. But emotional maturity is being able to process how you feel about something. When you were 16, you reacted to things differently than you react now. And the difference is you've grown up and gone, I don't know, maybe therapy or not therapy, or just like you understood yourself a little bit, learn from past mistakes.

The Viall Files
E917 Ask Nick - My Boyfriend Stole My Job

I was invested. I guess I would agree that you can't help but you feel that way. But emotional maturity is being able to process how you feel about something. When you were 16, you reacted to things differently than you react now. And the difference is you've grown up and gone, I don't know, maybe therapy or not therapy, or just like you understood yourself a little bit, learn from past mistakes.

The Viall Files
E917 Ask Nick - My Boyfriend Stole My Job

I was invested. I guess I would agree that you can't help but you feel that way. But emotional maturity is being able to process how you feel about something. When you were 16, you reacted to things differently than you react now. And the difference is you've grown up and gone, I don't know, maybe therapy or not therapy, or just like you understood yourself a little bit, learn from past mistakes.

The Viall Files
E917 Ask Nick - My Boyfriend Stole My Job

We definitely can't help how we feel. We can't help how we deal with those feelings. You are leading and justifying your actions by just invoking your feelings whenever it serves you the best. You can control that. That you can help. And every time I say something to you that says, well, you know, blah, blah, blah. And again, unbiased opinion, you called me.