Dhru Purohit

meaning that that improvement of intimacy, specifically sexual intimacy in your life, is a real catalyst for improving relationship satisfaction.

Working on your relationship is obviously critical.

Developing those skills where you feel seen and heard and loved and cared for, that's really important.

But just doing that alone, that's not gonna lead to better sex, right?

We need to be focused on

sex for pleasure's sake, right?

Improving pleasure, increasing the sense of connection that we feel sexually to our partner, because that is really what the catalyst is for building this relationship satisfaction.

It truly does.

And that's why, you know, on our quest to have better sex, this is why I really developed this McNichols hierarchy of sexual needs.

Because essentially what you're talking about is there's that physiological piece, right, which is really happening at an individual level.

And in conversations that I have also had with numerous doctors about

A lot of the reason that men are coming in and reporting that they're struggling with ED is because they're not taking care of themselves, right?

We live in this culture where we're always on this productivity treadmill, right?

Where we're all hamsters.

Our nervous systems are out of whack.

We're not taking care of ourselves.

We're not eating well.

We're not getting sleep.

And if you're not taking care of yourself, if you're not minding to your own central nervous system and physical health, you are not going to be able to show up in a sexual context and enjoy it and perform and feel at ease and have connected sex no matter how badly you want to.

So in other words, the foundation of that hierarchy is really getting connected to your body, taking care of your body,