Dhru Purohit

And so there are all these sort of myths about what makes sex satisfying that I'm trying to slowly dismantle and fill up their heads with the truth about what we know about sexuality in a very...

positive, honest, vulnerable, science-backed way.

I'm an educator, and I am a communicator, and what I love to do is take the research and translate it into a way that can be helpful to people, where it's better understood, and where it just gets out there in a way that feels accessible and not overwhelming.

Exactly.

Absolutely.

And I'm so glad you brought that up.

And so first of all, I want to say that, you know, obviously I am a very sex positive, open person, but I do have a little bit of beef with the sex positivity movement.

In essence, in some ways has sort of put forth this new standard of what it means to be sex positive and that if you are not...

a dominatrix, if you're not kinky, if you're not choking your partner in the bedroom, if you're not in an open relationship, that somehow you are not leading an evolved life, that you're not self-actualized.

And this is why in my hierarchy, when we get to the topics where I talk about those aspects,

It's, you know, I say you do not need to do any of these things to reach the top of this pyramid.

But Drew, I do think there's value in learning about them, right?

First of all, the reality is that being in a consensually non-monogamous relationship today

is about as common as people who own a cat.

So it is, there are a lot of people out there who you may not know that they're in open relationships or consensually non-monogamous relationships, but they are.

And here's the thing, we don't have to say to ourselves, okay, in order to be a happy person, this means I need to go be in an ethically non-monogamous relationship, right?

I absolutely don't want that to be the message.

But learning about ethical non-monogamy

it can teach you about some of the inherent challenges to monogamy.

Because we aren't taught how to do monogamy right when we're growing up.