Dhru Purohit

Talking about, wow, that experience was amazing, right?

What felt really good?

I loved it when you did XYZ with your tongue.

I loved it when you initiated that new position.

Really talking about what felt amazing, that's going to then build desire for the next time that you have sex.

Because like we talked about, pleasure is what invites desire for the next sexual experience.

It's focusing on what worked, what brought you a sense of feeling amazing in your body and a sense of connection to your partner.

That, if you can identify those factors and articulate them, that's going to lead you to feel desire for the next time you have sex.

I think that's an especially important point when we consider the orgasm gap, right?

Which is when you ask couples or people who are straight, did you have an orgasm the last time you had sex?

Only 67% of women will say yes, whereas 95% of men will say yes.

And so what is happening in the sexual experience that is leading to fewer orgasms for women?

It's probably this emphasis on penetrative sex as sort of the main course.

Meaning that because of what we see in the media, in porn, in Netflix, we expect women to have an orgasm within five minutes of penetration just from penetration.

The reality is that only 18% of women can have an orgasm from penetrative sex alone.

So yes, it's really important for women, especially to explore their bodies and to understand the types of touch that help them to have an orgasm, which for women,

For the 82% of women who are not able to have an orgasm from just penetrative sex alone is clitoral stimulation.

It all comes down to figuring out what types of clitoral stimulation feel the best to enable you to have more orgasms.

There are so many incredible toys that are on the market, whether it is suction technology or they are even toys that have AI sensors that adjust to the specific rhythms of your body and that can sense when you're more aroused and change themselves to

adapt to your particular body.