Dhru Purohit

And that happens.

Totally fine.

But when one partner really feels like they do want it and the other person has just said no and said that part of our life is over, that's not okay, right?

And you have a right to...

either sit down with your partner and really expect them to come to the table and have a conversation about how to work through that, or to simply leave the relationship.

And I know that might not be a popular opinion, but I do think that sex is important enough that if there's that fundamental, unchangeable element of compatibility, we need to honor that the way we would honor the fact if our partner was

hell-bent on not having kids and we really wanted kids, right?

It's just as important a factor in a relationship that needs to be given attention.

Yeah, exactly.

Exactly.

Because usually if there was a thriving sex life at some point and then it's just teetered off and it's died, there usually is something deeper going on, right?

It's rarely just about the sex.

There's usually either some other kind of resentment that needs to be addressed or like I talked about different, you know, biological things that could be happening with hormones.

I think it can lead to just all sorts of disconnection from yourself, from your body.

If you're not addressing your level of sexual wellness, if you're not addressing the fundamental ability for you to enjoy sexual pleasure in your life, you're essentially abandoning yourself at a really fundamental level.

And lack of attention to your sex life is a profound form of

self-abandonment in that it is saying this part of your life that ties into how you physically feel, how you cognitively feel, how you can connect with your relationship, how you can explore your curiosities, how you can really foster a sense of play and joy in your life.

If you're not giving attention to that,

you're kind of telling yourself at a certain level that you don't matter, right?

That the world's needs come before your own, that everybody else's issues and all those responsibilities are more of an importance than your own happiness.