Diana Peragine

In addition to this kind of miscreantism.

missing curriculum of sexual pleasure in the classroom for girls, for young women, there's also this sort of hidden curriculum in their real lives of sort of sexual frustration, of, you know, disappointing sex when it doesn't, you know, devolve into being something that's downright painful or scary that, you know, might guide them away or sort of train them away from sexual desire at a very early age when these lessons are maybe likely to last.

Right.

I think that's a great question.

And I think that to kind of get at the answer to that, we kind of maybe have to break down how different sex is.

for young people, you know, relative across genders and, you know, across sort of life stages, relatively speaking, right?

I mean, you know, when we say a lot that women, we tend to say that women get worse sex than men, right?

And maybe there is some contribution this makes to that libido gap.

But, you know, they actually get the worst sex to start with, right?

As I mentioned, the orgasm gap at women's first exposure to sex, that's about, it's the

five times larger than the orgasm gap between adults that makes headlines, right?

And that pleasure gap at first intercourse, that's remained stable over three decades, even as women's adult sort of sexual experiences have improved, right?

And that gender gap has narrowed in pleasure at that time in life.

Also, gender gap and stimulation of the primary sexual pleasure organ, that's penile glands for men, clitoral glands for women,

That pleasure gap, sure, it's large during heterosexual sex in adulthood, but it's twice as large at those first sexual experiences that women have.

Painful sex, rough sex, forced sex, those are all more likely to occur the younger women are, whereas that trend doesn't really hold for younger men.

women also tend to lose friendships as they gain sexual experience, whereas men don't suffer similar losses.

In fact, quite the reverse.

And obviously, you can top all of that off with greater odds or greater risk of unplanned pregnancy, sexually transmitted infections, obstetric complications for women at those younger ages that don't carry over to younger men, that really make the costs and benefits of sex really probably the most imbalanced.

Right.