Doctor Mike

And so you think, well, this guy's not depressed.

He's not, he's not crying.

It's not how they like women.

They find out, you know, men, many men get very depressed in their forties for all sorts of reasons.

I write about this a lot about how transitions happen.

happen in strivers' lives, for example.

And they say, I had no idea my husband was so depressed.

I just noticed he was grumpy all the time.

That's actually how, you know, if your husband starts getting really, really grumpy, that probably means your husband's depressed.

I never saw him cry once.

Nope, that's not how it works.

It isn't.

It actually isn't.

And that's a really weird thing.

And so when it comes to loneliness, it's going to be manifest in different ways as well.

And so the loneliness for women in particular, if they're highly, highly online, they're more likely to be depressed than anxious.

And that's a real manifestation of loneliness is how it comes about.

And deep, deep enduring love-based relationships are kind of the cure.

It's weird.

I mean, love is the balm of Gilead.